Petition to Conduct CBI Enquiry into Murder of Dr J A Mathan

Wednesday, 30 September 2009

'Psycho' dad locked up 3 daughters, wife for 7 years in Mumbai

'Psycho' dad locked up 3 daughters, wife for 7 years in Mumbai
Times Now 30 September 2009, 04:33pm IST
It's a story that will send a chill down your spine, a story of a 60-year-old father, who locked, beat and starved his wife and daughters for 7 years.

Francis Gomes, a 60-year-old unemployed man, living in Mumbai along with his wife and 3 daughters had confined his family in the house since 2002.
The father allegedly kept them locked up as he was convinced that his girls would be raped if they even stepped out of home.

It is believed that every morning before Francis left home he would lock the door giving the impression that the family was away. The women were often denied food and fresh clothing. The windows had been boarded, denying them sunlight; they were prohibited from watching television, so much so that when the youngest daughter failed her college exam, the father hit her so hard that she suffered severe neck injuries.

A few months ago, Francis' second daughter along with the help of an NGO managed to escape the clutches of her father. While the social workers managed to rescue her, the other 3 women were too scared to leave the house with them, fearing that Francis would successfully hunt them down.

Fortunately, on Tuesday morning social workers belonging to the NGO Anand Rehabilitation Centre along with the police rescued the three women from the house, while Francis was away. The police now have Mumbai's psycho dad Francis Gomes in their custody, after local resident in Vasai, Mumbai informed the police about his whereabouts following reports in the media.

While the girl, who suffered neck injuries, is being treated in a government hospital, the other two daughters, who are malnourished and traumatised, are under psychological care. The wife too is under medical care.

Vasai horror story ends, tyrant dad held for physical abuse and illegal confinement of wife and daughters

Another tyrant Husband and Father has surfaced in Vasai, who has physically abused his wife and daughters and kept them under illegal confinement.
Vasai horror story ends, tyrant dad held for physical abuse and illegal confinement of wife and daughters
1 October 2009
VASAI: A 60-year-old Vasai man was arrested on Wednesday on charges of keeping his wife and daughters confined at home. Francis Gomes, kept his wife, Theresa, and three daughters, Elizabeth, Geneviev and Barbara, locked up at their Naigaon house for over a year.

Geneviev, however, escaped from the house this June with the help of a Nalasopara-based NGO. Theresa, Elizabeth and Barbara were rescued from his clutches on Tuesday by cops and another NGO, Anand Rehabilitation Centre.

The police arrested Francis after Theresa lodged a complaint with them on Tuesday. He was picked up from his residence on Wednesday afternoon. "But before being arrested he was thrashed by his neighbours," Anand Rehabilitation Centre head R Gopalakrishnan said.

Theresa told the cops that he would leave home every day in the morning after ensuring that the windows were sealed and power was switched off. He would then lock the door from outside to give the impression that the family was away. She told the police that they would go without food for days and would look for help whenever they met someone. But the women were too scared to tell anyone about their ordeal.

Investigators said on Wednesday that Francis had always been possessive abo-ut his daughters but allowed them to pursue their education. All that, however, changed after the "trauma that Barbara underwent''.

"Francis had told several people and local organisations that a few years ago Barbara had returned home one day after being physically abused. He had then beaten her up so badly that it damaged her neck," police officials said.

He, however, would take Barbara occasionally to Vasai's Cardinal Gracious Hospital for treatment. "They would sit in the hospital canteen and order vada pav,'' a family acquaintance said. "Theresa and the girls were always dressed shabbily. Their clothes would stink. When asked, Francis would tell me that his wife would not have a bath for days on end. Theresa and her daughters seemed to be too scared of Francis and they hardly spoke,'' the acquaintance added.

Meanwhile, Theresa, Elizabeth and Barbara, who had bruises all over the body, were sent to an undisclosed hospital in Mumbai for treatment. The Gomeses had moved to the locality about a year ago and had stayed at several rented accommodations in Vasai over the last few years. The family rented a second-floor flat at the Neelambha Cooperative Housing Society, Amol Nagar, in Naigaon (W).

Child Abuse Memoirs and Autobiographies: Why People Read and Write About Childhood Abuse

Why do people write 'Misery memoirs' and write about their most painful memories?
I got the answer in an interesting blog which I am linking to:

Child Abuse Memoirs and Autobiographies: Why People Read and Write About Childhood Abuse

Why do people read, or write, unhappy autobiographies and memoirs? A simple answer to both questions is therapy, or more accurately, bibliotherapy.

Bibliotherapy is a word that describes the act of reading selected works for the purpose of healing a personal issue, such as a history of child abuse.

Therapeutic Reading

The sharing of stories has long served as a medium for transmitting hard-learned lessons and wisdom from one person to another. Recipients of such stories share the storyteller's experiences while at the same time benefiting from the teller's retrospect, something people cannot do in the midst of their own experiences. In the best of cases, recipients of good storytelling can put the author's lessons to use and spare themselves from repeating destructive coping strategies. In other cases, readers may recognize errors in the author's behaviors, which they had not previously been able to recognize in their own behaviors., a special interest group of The National Storytelling Network, promotes the use of storytelling as a tool for healing. The website includes stories for children in crisis, as well as book reviews and articles on a variety of relevant topics.

Therapeutic Writing

The writing and telling of an unhappy childhood story provides the author with a means to symbolically release the accumulated weight of painful past experiences. It can also serve as a way to reach out to others who have similar histories, giving the author a sense of purpose and the satisfaction of deriving something positive from something painful., an international digital storytelling initiative, offers a supportive space for telling stories which might otherwise remain unspoken. The website includes stories and case studies, as well as links to related resources.

Tuesday, 29 September 2009

Adolf Hitler might not have died in a bunker: Scientists

Adolf Hitler might not have died in a bunker: Scientists
28 September 2009

LONDON: The theory that Adolf Hitler committed suicide in a bunker by shooting himself has been proved wrong as DNA test has found that the skull fragments thought to be of the dictator are actually of a female.

Historians and scientist have long held that Hitler took cyanide and shot himself in an underground bunker on 30 April 1945 to escape being caught by Russians.

A piece of skull touted to be Hitler's, complete with bullet hole, had been taken from outside the Fuhrer's bunker by the Russian Army and preserved by Soviet intelligence, the Daily Mail reported.

But, DNA analysis of the skull fragment by American scientists has found it to be of a woman under 40. Hitler was 56 in April 1945.

"We know the skull corresponds to a woman between the ages of 20 and 40," said University of Connecticut archaeologist Nick Bellantoni.

"The bone seemed very thin; male bone tends to be more robust. And the sutures where the skull plates come together seemed to correspond to someone under 40."

Bellantoni, whose findings were telecast on History Channel in US, flew to Moscow to take DNA swabs at the State Archive and was also shown the bloodstained remains of the bunker sofa on which Hitler and Braun were believed to have killed themselves.

"I had the reference photos the Soviets took of the sofa in 1945 and I was seeing the exact same stains on the fragments of wood and fabric in front of me, so I knew I was working with the real thing," he said.

UN set to treat caste as human rights violation

The ritualized practice of Discrimination and Intolerance based on Caste is equivalent to Racism. Tradition, social practices, khap panchayats have no current role in society.

UN set to treat caste as human rights violation
28 September 2009
NEW DELHI: If the recent genome study denying the Aryan-Dravidian divide has established the antiquity of caste segregations in marriage, the ongoing session of the UN Human Rights Council in Geneva looks set to recognize caste-based discrimination as a human rights violation. This, despite India's opposition and following Nepal's breaking ranks on the culturally sensitive issue.

Nepal has emerged as the first country from South Asia -- the region where untouchability has been traditionally practiced -- to declare support for the draft principles and guidelines published by UNHRC four months ago for ``effective elimination of discrimination based on work and descent'' -- the UN terminology for caste inequities.

In a side-event to the session on September 16, Nepalese minister Jeet Bahadur Darjee Gautam said his county welcomed the idea mooted by the UNHRC document to involve ``regional and international mechanism, the UN and its organs'' to complement national efforts to combat caste discrimination. This is radically different from India's stated aversion to the internationalization of the caste problem.

Much to India's embarrassment, Nepal's statement evoked an immediate endorsement from the office of the UN high commissioner for human rights, Navanethem Pillay, a South African Tamil. Besides calling Nepal's support ``a significant step by a country grappling with this entrenched problem itself'', Pillay's office said it would ``like to encourage other states to follow this commendable example''.

The reference to India was unmistakable especially since Pillay had pressed the issue during her visit to New Delhi in March. Pillay not only asked India to address ``its own challenges nationally, but show leadership in combating caste-based discrimination globally''. The granddaughter of an indentured labourer taken to South Africa from a village near Madurai, Pillay recalled that in 2006, Prime Minister Manmohan Singh had compared untouchability to apartheid.

Adding to India's discomfiture, Sweden, in its capacity as the president of the Europeon Union, said, ``caste-based discrimination and other forms of discrimination based on work and descent is an important priority for EU''. If this issue continues to gather momentum, UNHRC may in a future session adopt the draft principles and guidelines and, to impart greater legal force, send them for adoption to the UN General Assembly.

The draft principles specifically cited caste as one of the grounds on which more than 200 million people in the world suffer discrimination. ``This type of discrimination is typically associated with the notion of purity and pollution and practices of untouchability, and is deeply rooted in societies and cultures where this discrimination is practiced,'' it said.

Though India succeeded in its efforts to keep caste out of the resolution adopted by the 2001 Durban conference on racism, the issue has since re-emerged in a different guise, without getting drawn into the debate over where caste and race are analogous.

Monday, 28 September 2009

Biography of a Wife harassed by the"Other Woman":Chapter 8.Threats of Violence by newly-found Fiancé (Central Crime Bureau undercover officer’s son)

Biography of a Wife harassed by the "Other Woman": Chapter 8. Threats of Violence and Abuse by newly-found Fiancé (Central Crime Bureau undercover officer’s son)

Main Characters:
1. Pranati Devi -The Legally Wedded Wife or Narrator
2. Gayatri Devi alias Mata Hari - The OTHER WOMAN luring the Husband in an existing marriage
3. Aditya Kumar-The Husband
Threats of Violence and Abuse by newly-found Fiancé(Central Crime Bureau undercover officer’s son)
Date of writing: 27 September 2009
Date of Editing: 28 September 2009

Gayatri Devi should be given the Mata Hari of the Century award. Her spell on the men she is involved with is so strong that they are willing to do anything for her. The latest is Mithun, who she is planning to get married. Mithun has threatened both Aditya and me, Adity’s legally wedded wife, Pranati.
Mithun came across this blogspot and read . He was initially shocked to read Gayatri Devi’s reality, confronted her about the same and her relationship with Aditya. Gayatri Devi in her now practiced and perfected dramatic style, was able to convince Mithun that she is innocent and it was Aditya who was the culprit. Gayatri told Mithun that since I and Aditya were having problems Aditya was seeking her company to unburden himself. Since she is a good friend she tried to help him, but he misunderstood her friendliness and started wooing her arduously, though she forbade him from doing so. She also told Mithun that even Aditya’s parents were pursuing her by visiting and calling her often.

Charged with all this information, Mithun called Aditya and threatened him with dire consequences. Mithun realized that Aditya was out of town for a couple of weeks and was not affected by his treat. This is when Mithun called me.

At first, Mithun posed himself as Gayatri Devi’s colleague and expressed his desire to help me as he has high respect for women. He asked me for more details and promised go get back at the earliest with a solution. He reverted after a few days and that is when he revealed his true identity as Gayatri Devi’s fiancé and told me that if his uncle had not passed away, he and Gayatri Devi would have been married by now.

He then went on to put the full blame on Aditya and accused Aditya of chasing Gayatri Devi. I suggested to Mithun that if Gayatri Devi is innocent then let her come and clear her name and tell me exactly how Aditya was chasing her. Let us all meet together and sort this out. To which he got wild and started abusing me in the filthiest language.

Mithun then told me that his father Shivanna P T is an undercover officer in the Narcotics Department of Central Crime Bureau and if I don’t stop exposing Gayatri Devi on the blogspot, he will get me and my family implicated in false narcotic cases and put us indefinitely behind bars.
Picture: Will this be the punishment of Pranati Devi after a few more months for Speaking out her 'Experiences with Truth'?

Gayatri has clearly lied about her past; she is beyond doubt a home breaker and a husband snatcher. She is an ace at one-night stands and has fooled many young men and used them for her pleasure. She is famous as USA (Un Satisfied Aunt) in her office. How is it then, that Mithun’s father who works with Central Crime Bureau not been able to verify her background? Is he so blinded by his son’s feelings for Gayatri Devi that he is willing to accept a nymphomaniac as a daughter-in-law?

Mithun himself is known for his chain smoking and drinking. He has been found coming to office in a drunken state, many times.

Mithun should realize that being an undercover Central Crime Bureau Officer’s son does not give him the power to threaten innocent citizens nor can he stop the voice of women who are seeking justice.
As long as Mithuns and Gayatri Devis live on this earth and can get away with a serious offence like threats and husband snatching, we will not be able to live peacefully or give our future generations an ethical, moral, value-based society as a future legacy to our children.

I request all the readers to help and support me in my cause to stop the "Other women" from breaking homes.

Inspired by the success of the 'Chronicles of a Battered Abused Discriminated and Disadvantaged Fatherless Girl-child'----another woman has come forward with her "Testimony of a wife in an existing marriage", who is being harassed by a Young Unattached Woman who is wooing for the attention of her HUSBAND and luring him.

This TESTIMONY brings to LIGHT the Strenuous circumstances of LEGALLY WEDDED OLDER WOMEN, who are facing competition from 'Sexually empowered young women'. These 'OTHER WOMEN' are younger, divorced or free, and compete to STEAL HUSBANDS FROM EXISTING MARRIAGES, by hook or by crook (and other carnal means----by Lure, beauty and looks!). And, then proceed to Sham conversions to Islam, Sham marriages, adultery, and other Social crimes ---if unchecked.

The core issue of the Biography is to look for Solutions for "The Other Women" in our Homes, Community, Society and the Corporate World. The solutions include Counseling, Healing, Family Forums and other Alternative Counseling Forums.
Disclaimer: The Story is told in the first person narrative by the " Legally Wedded Wife".

For reasons of confidentiality, please don't assume the identity of the 'narrator'. The entire story has been placed in custody of certain well-wishers. Names and identities of characters have been masked and changed to protect their identities. Let us call the name of the WIFE as 'Pranati Devi'.

Images used are only representative of the story.

Strong Legal action will be taken in Bangalore jurisdiction, against all those who claim to resemble or know the identity of any characters mentioned in this Biography.

Events are true and character sketches are disguised to protect their identities.

Copyright © 2009 Roshni Pereira and "Pranati Devi, The Legally Wedded Wife"

Biography of a Wife harassed by the "Other Woman":Chapter 7. Parents leading their Daughter and 'The Other Woman in my life" in the Path of Immorality

Biography of a Wife harassed by the "Other Woman": Chapter 7. Parents leading their Daughter and 'The Other Woman" affecting my life in the Path of Immorality
Main Characters:
1. Pranati Devi -The Legally Wedded Wife or Narrator
2. Gayatri Devi alias Mata Hari - The OTHER WOMAN luring the Husband in an existing marriage
3. Aditya Kumar-The Husband
Parents leading their Daughter and 'The Other Woman" affecting my life, in the Path of Immorality
Gayatri Devi’s parents belong to lower middle class. Having first worked in Army and then in HAL, Mr. V R and Selvi got a taste of good life. To them their daughter was a golden goose who would guarantee them a good life even after retirement. To achieve this they started grooming her right from the beginning.

When Gayatri Devi as a child and threw tantrums to go to school, her father V R bribed her by getting his officers' driver to drop her to school in a car. When she cried for toys and dresses that V R could ill afford, V R would somehow manage to buy them for her. This made Gayatri Devi believe that she could get whatever she wanted in life all she needs to do is play on people's emotions. As she started growing older, this belief was strengthen by various incidents.

The incident that triggered Gaytri Devi’s firm belief in “you can emotionally exploit others to get anything you want” took place when Gayatri Devi was in 3rd standard. Gayatri was very friendly with the senior officer’s daughter Piyali. Piyali was a nice soft-spoken, shy girl who usually got bullied by other kids. Gayatri Devi had befriended her as Piyali lived in a specious bungalow and had a lot of toys to play. Gayatri Devi usually went to Piyali’s house and played after school, as she not only got to play with Piyali’s toys, but also got to eat good delicious food cooked by Piyali’s mother.
Piyali’s father gifted her with a Barbie doll on her birthday, which Gayatri Devi liked immensely and longed for the doll. Now she went to Piyali’s house everyday and played with Barbie. However, she was not satisfied with her limited access to Barbie and wanted to take the doll home. When Piyali refused, Gayatri Devi stopped talking to her and got the other children to do the same. She also started bullying Piyali which led to the emotional and shy Piyali’s mental breakdown for which she had to be given medical treatment.

Gayatri Devi’s parents instead of reprimanding their daughter for bullying her friend, proudly told one and all how their little angel had taught a lesson to the proud owner of Barbie.

As Gayatri Devi grew older, this got a different angle, now she started flirting and using her body to attract attention of young guys with rich parents. Aditya during their NIIT days was one of the victims of Gayatri Devi’s Flirting and cleavage display. All this happened with support of her parents. Mr. V R and Selvi encouraged her in her immoral acts as this was the easiest way for them to get all the expensive things that their daughter desired, as gifts from the various rich young men that Gayatri Devi dated.

Even Gayati Devi’s marriage was a part of a big game plan. Gayati Devi wanted to marry Nadakumar, a nice innocent middle class engineering student, however her parents convinced her to marry a rich NRI Rajamani, much older that her saying she can get a huge alimony and divorce him in a year’s time. She could then comeback and marry the guy she was going around at that time, Nandakumar, only they did not include Nanadkumar in the plan and he vanished from the scene.

As planned, Gayatri Devi returned from US, within a year loaded with money and started hunting for a hot young guy, and contacted all those guys that she had flirted with or had an affair. Mr V R and Selvi’s house now became a minibrothel where all young men with money had an easy access to Gayatri Devi’s bedroom without any constraints.

Aditya was on the list of most favored and lucrative target. Gayatri Devi, being well ware of his liking for her targeted his emotions, telling him all the horrid stories about her ex-husband and how poor she put up with all torture etc. She also made Aditya believe that she was hard-pressed for money and desperately need a job. Slowly but steadily, she was able to capture Adity’s attention and also made him believe that she was madly in love with him and wanted to marry him.

Gayatri Devi’s parents were a party to this, encouraging their daughter’s immoral act all along.
When Pranati, Aditya’s legally wedded wife requested Mr. V R to stop his daughter from indulging in an extra-marital affair with a married man, Mr. V R threatened Pranati with her and her son Ramesh’s life.

With Parents like V R and Selvi who deliberately encourage their children to be immoral; it is not surprising that women like Gayatri Devi, don’t think twice before breaking homes for their gain.

Even Gayatri Devi’s relationship with her current beau is based on lies and deceit. Gayatri Devi has successfully convinced Mithun that she is innocent and that it was Aditya who was after her. She was only seeking his support as a friend and Aditya has misunderstood it. Mithun should know better than believe her, as if she was only being friend with Aditya, what about all those romantic SMSes send to Aditya.

Also, Gayatri Devi has told Mithun that Pranati has tricked Aditya into marrying her by hiding her first marriage and child.

There no limit as to how low, women like Gayatri Devi, can fall to achieve their ends and prove others wrong and to what extent guys like Aditya and Mithun get fooled.

With Parents like Mr V R and Selvi, who don’t think twice before initiating and then encouraging their children to be immoral, we will have to prepare ourselves to live in an unethical, immoral valueless society.

I earnestly request to all the readers to join me in giving an ethical and moral, value-based society as a legacy for future generations, by making women like Gayatri Devi powerless and unsuccessful in her foul intentions.

Inspired by the success of the 'Chronicles of a Battered Abused Discriminated and Disadvantaged Fatherless Girl-child'----another woman has come forward with her "Testimony of a wife in an existing marriage", who is being harassed by a Young Unattached Woman who is wooing for the attention of her HUSBAND and luring him.

This TESTIMONY brings to LIGHT the Strenuous circumstances of LEGALLY WEDDED OLDER WOMEN, who are facing competition from 'Sexually empowered young women'. These 'OTHER WOMEN' are younger, divorced or free, and compete to STEAL HUSBANDS FROM EXISTING MARRIAGES, by hook or by crook (and other carnal means----by Lure, beauty and looks!). And, then proceed to Sham conversions to Islam, Sham marriages, adultery, and other Social crimes ---if unchecked.

The core issue of the Biography is to look for Solutions for "The Other Women" in our Homes, Community, Society and the Corporate World. The solutions include Counseling, Healing, Family Forums and other Alternative Counseling Forums.
Disclaimer: The Story is told in the first person narrative by the " Legally Wedded Wife".

For reasons of confidentiality, please don't assume the identity of the 'narrator'. The entire story has been placed in custody of certain well-wishers. Names and identities of characters have been masked and changed to protect their identities. Let us call the name of the WIFE as 'Pranati Devi'.

Images used are only representative of the story.

Strong Legal action will be taken in Bangalore jurisdiction, against all those who claim to resemble or know the identity of any characters mentioned in this Biography.

Events are true and character sketches are disguised to protect their identities.

Copyright © 2009 Roshni Pereira and "Pranati Devi, The Legally Wedded Wife"

Saturday, 26 September 2009

Superfoetation: Woman falls pregnant TWICE in a fortnight after scan reveals two foetuses... who aren't twins

Superfoetation: Woman falls pregnant TWICE in a fortnight after scan reveals two foetuses... who aren't twins
26th September 2009
When mother-to-be Julia Grovenburg went for a routine ultrasound she thought she knew what to expect.

But her jaw almost hit the floor when doctors told her she had fallen pregnant again.

The 31-year-old American was told that next to her growing baby girl was a tiny male foetus, conceived just days afterwards.

This incredibly rare biological event is known as superfoetation – meaning two separate instances of fertilisation during the same cycle.

There are just a handful of cases ever recorded.

Mrs Grovenburg and husband Todd, 38, of Fort Smith, Arkansas, are expecting their first baby, a girl they have already called Jillian, on December 24.

Next up is a boy, Hudson, due on January 10.

‘We feel very blessed, but the truth is that I gagged. I started getting sick, that’s not a joke,’ Mrs Grovenburg told the New York Daily News of the moment she found out she was pregnant again.

She added that her ultrasound technician was in total shock and her husband ‘was laughing’.

Doctors have warned, however, that both babies will probably be delivered together some time in early December in which case Hudson is likely to be born first because of his position.

‘We tried for three years to have kids, and nothing ever happened,’ Mrs Grovenburg said. ‘We even refused to do in-vitro or fertility drugs because we didn’t want multiples. I guess God is having the last laugh.’

Dr Karen Boyle of the Greater Baltimore Medical Centre, told ABC News that superfoetation was extremely rare.

‘There is no prevalence or incidence in the literature. I could only find about 10 reported cases,’ she said.

The creatures which most commonly undergo superfoetation are mice.

Horses, sheep and kangaroos have also been subject to the condition.

Chynna and Bijou Phillips Support Their Sister Mackenzie Phillips, With Regrets

No more 'The Mamas and The Papas'. Only Gigolos and Prostitutes, pimping themselves and their children!

At least, the sisters are speaking out the truth, and are supporting their BLOOD, despite screams from other IMMORAL step-mothers.

Chynna and Bijou Phillips Support Their Sister Mackenzie Phillips, With Regrets
25 September
Chynna and Bijou Phillips have known the truth for years now -- that their father and half-sister were longtime lovers -- but it's the way Mackenzie revealed their darkest "family secret" to the world that has them both upset. On Friday's 'Oprah,' Chynna revealed she was told the truth 12 years ago, and is proud of her half-sister for facing her demons. But she isn't without her reservations about the way Mackenzie Phillips rolled out the news, via a tell-all book titled 'High on Arrival.'

"Am I exceedingly joyful that my family secret that I told maybe my therapist, my husband and my very best friend in the whole word [is now public]? No."

Bijou was only 13 when her older sister told her the shocking story. In a statement, she reveals how the news was "confusing and scary" for her at the time. Adding, "as I lived alone with my father since I was 3, I didn't know what to believe."

Her confusion was only compounded when "shortly there after Mackenzie told me it didn't happen."

"I understand Mackenzie's need to come clean with a history she feels will help others, but it's devastating to have the world watch as we try and mend broken fences, especially when the man in question isn't here to defend himself."
Appearing on 'Oprah' Friday, Mackenzie tried to explain that their dad "had changed his ways as much as he was able to" at that point, and that "maybe i did her a disservice" by leaving Bijou alone with him.

"I did take her out of there when i thought she was not being watched properly," she recalled.

Mackenzie reveals in a new book that she had a incestuous relationship with mamas and the Papas leader, John Phillips.

Fatherless Child in Ireland: Stolen from his Single mother - and sold to the highest bidder

Fatherless Child in Ireland: Stolen from his Single mother - and sold to the highest bidder
26th September 2009

Early in 2004, I was approached by a woman who knew I had been a reporter. She said she had a friend who thought I could help her solve a family mystery. I told her that wasn't my sort of journalism; but she insisted and I went to the meeting.
The woman's friend was called Jane, a financial administrator from St Albans. She was in her late 30s and had been through an emotional experience.
Just before Christmas, her mother Philomena, tipsy on festive sherry, had revealed a secret she'd kept for 50 years: she had a son that she had never spoken about to anyone.
The reason for the secrecy was that he had been born illegitimate in Ireland at a time when such things were considered shameful and to be hushed up. Jane said her lost brother would be in his early 50s and probably living in the United States.
I still wasn't sure about getting involved, but a little later I met Philomena herself. What I discovered was a tale of the abuse of power, and how dogma and hypocrisy in high places can ruin the lives of so many people.
Philomena told me she had given birth in a convent at Roscrea in County Tipperary on July 5, 1952. She had been 18 when she had met a young man who bought her a toffee apple on a warm autumn evening at the county fair.
'I had just left convent school,' she said with a sigh. 'I went in there when my mother died, when I was six-and-a-half, and I left at 18 not knowing a thing about the facts of life. I didn't know where babies came from . . .'
When her pregnancy became obvious, her family had had Philomena 'put away' with the nuns.
After her baby, Anthony, was born, the Mother Superior threatened Philomena with damnation if ever she breathed a word about her 'guilty secret'. Terrified, she kept it quiet for more than half a century.
'All my life, I couldn't tell anyone,' she said. 'We were so brow-beaten, and it was such a sin. It was an awful thing to have a baby out of wedlock . . .

Over the years I would say, "I will tell them, I will tell them" - but it was so ingrained down deep in my heart that I mustn't tell anybody, that I never did.' I was intrigued to know why the nuns had been so insistent on the importance of silence and secrecy. The answer, almost certainly, lay in what had happened next.
Philomena was just one of thousands of women sent to Irish convents in the 1950s and 60s, taken away from their homes and families because the Roman Catholic Church said single mothers were moral degenerates who could not be allowed to keep their children.
Such was the power of the Church, and of its then leader, Archbishop John Charles McQuaid, that the state bowed before its demands, ceding responsibility for the mothers and babies to the nuns.
For them, it was not only a matter of sin and morality, but one of pounds, shillings and pence.
Philomena told me about the hellish labour she was forced to perform in the convent laundries after her baby was born. Other girls were made to work in commercial greenhouses, making religious artefacts for sale, or stringing rosary beads until the wire cut grooves in their hands that would never disappear.

The Church may have opened its doors to 'fallen women'; but once they were inside, it exploited them mercilessly.
From speaking to mothers who were caught up in the convent homes, and by digging through government records, I realised that in the early Fifties the state was paying the nuns £1 a week for every one of the thousands of mothers they had in their care, and 2s 6d for every baby. In addition, the Church kept the proceeds from the girls' labour.
It was a source of significant income, and the nuns made sure the women stayed and worked for at least three years. They could get out only by paying £100 - an impossible amount for the vast majority.
In a fascinating echo of the debate going on today in America, the Irish government was trying to introduce a basic health and welfare service, which would have provided some safeguards for mothers and their babies.

But like the American right wing, the Church denounced the plan as 'opening the gates to Communism'.
John Charles McQuaid wrote to the Vatican: 'If adopted in law, it would constitute a readymade instrument for totalitarianism.'
The legislation was defeated, and the Church kept its malevolent stranglehold on the fate of the nation's orphans. The government was humiliated into tendering its resignation.
Even more shocking than the exploitation of the mothers was the exploitation of their children. The girls had to care for their babies during their three-year sentence in the convents - only then to be told that their child was being taken from them.
For women who had had so long to bond with their sons or daughters, the parting was terrible.
Philomena showed me the undertaking she had been forced to sign.
'I, Philomena Lee', it says, over a signature in a juvenile hand, 'do hereby relinquish full claim forever to my said child Anthony Lee and surrender him to Sister Barbara, Superioress of Sean Ross Abbey . . . to make my child available for adoption to any person she considers fit and proper, inside or outside the state.
'I further undertake never to attempt to see, interfere with or make any claim to the said child at any future time.' Philomena told me she had fought against signing the document.
'Oh God, my heart. I didn't want him to go. I just craved and begged them to please let me keep him.
'None of us wanted to give our babies up, none of us. But what else could we do? They just said: "You have to sign these papers."

'I remember it was a Sunday evening . . . I'm so sorry, I'm crying now when I think about it.'
Philomena cried when Anthony was taken from her, at Christmas 1955. She was not allowed to say goodbye, but she spotted him being bundled into the back of a black car.
When she shouted to him, the noise of the engine drowned out her voice, but as the car pulled away she is convinced he stood up in the seat and peered through the rear windscreen looking for her.
Afterwards, her father would not take her back because of the shame: he had told neighbours, friends and Philomena's own sisters that she had 'gone away' and that no one knew where she was.
So, in the end, the Church despatched her to work at one of its homes for delinquent boys in Liverpool.
Philomena trained as a nurse, got married in 1959 and had two more children. She longed to tell them about their brother, but couldn't.
She kept her secret but she never forgot her son. The thought of him gnawed at her; she worried how he was coping without her.
'Oh, he was gorgeous,' she told me. 'He was a lovely, gentle, quiet lad. All my life I have never forgotten him. I have prayed for him every day.
'Over the years I would so often say: "I wonder what he is doing. Has he gone to Vietnam? Is he on Skid Row?" I just didn't know what had happened to him."
Finally - without telling anyone - Philomena embarked on a lonely, desperate search to find her son. She went back to the convent in Roscrea several times and asked the nuns to help her.
Each time they refused, brandishing her sworn undertaking that she would 'never attempt to see' her child.
When I agreed to help look for Anthony in 2004, we had little to go on. We knew his date and place of birth, but his name, Anthony Lee, would certainly have been changed by his adoptive parents.
Philomena had been told that her son would be taken to the United States, but little else.
The quest became more fascinating than any detective story: its twists and turns, the unexpected coincidences that finally led us to Philomena's lost child, are the backbone of my book. But the life story that the detective work uncovered is truly remarkable.

Early on in the search, I realised that the Irish Catholic hierarchy had been engaged in what amounted to an illicit baby trade. Archbishop McQuaid regarded single mothers as sinners, and believed their children would be safer away from them.
But he prevented social workers from intervening 'because they take no cognizance of the gravity of the woman's sin . . . her lust and selfgratification . . . and her fall is all too often condoned and excused.'
Even worse, he was horrified that the children might be given to Protestants. McQuaid insisted unbendingly that adopting couples should be practising Roman Catholics.
But there were no proper checks on their background, as long as they had the money to pay the 'donation' the Church demanded.
The result was that the 'orphans' were sold to the highest bidder, however unsuitable they might be, and thousands were bought by wealthy Americans at a going rate of between $2,000 and $3,000.
Philomena's son was one of them. When rumours of the Church's role began to emerge decades later, much of the incriminating paperwork was hastily destroyed, and even today the Church guards its adoption archives fiercely.
It took a painstaking trawl through passport records, and the piecing together of fleeting references in old newspaper articles, before we discovered that Anthony Lee had been offered to a middle-class couple from St Louis, Missouri.
Marge and Doc Hess certainly fulfilled the McQuaid criteria: they were good Catholics, a professional couple in their early 40s, and Marge's brother was himself a bishop. The Hesses already had three sons, but they wanted a daughter.
In the course of my research, I came into possession of Marge Hess's diaries.
Their carefullywritten entries gave me a startling insight into everything from the clothes and lip gloss she wore to the emotions that overwhelmed her as she studied herself in the mirror before setting off to Ireland.
In August 1955, Marge Hess scoured the Irish mother and baby homes for a little girl.
Her diary records her first impressions of the shy three-year- old, Mary McDonald, who was offered to her by the Mother Superior of the Roscrea convent. And it reveals the twist of fate that led her to adopt Anthony Lee.
When Marge leaned down to pick up her new daughter in the convent nursery, she was charmed to see Mary's best friend, a little boy in baggy trousers, come running to give her a kiss.
Marge fell for him at once. That evening, she called her husband in St Louis and asked if it would be all right to bring two children back instead of one.
Anthony's unthinking show of affection for Marge was the random nudge of chance that changed his life. By the end of 1955, he and Mary had been transported from rural Ireland to a new existence and new identities in the New World.
He was renamed Michael Hess and grew up to be an 'A' student. He was physically attractive and gifted, ran cross-country and sang in school musical productions.
But he was haunted by halfremembered visions of his first three years in Ireland, and by a lifelong yearning to find his mother.
He remembered her touch and the way she sang to him, and he embarked on repeated fruitless attempts to find her, tragically unaware that Philomena, too, was pining and searching for him.
Both came back to the convent and pleaded for information, but the nuns - perhaps ashamed of their role in Ireland's baby trade - refused to help.
Michael became a successful lawyer. He was spotted by the leaders of Ronald Reagan's Republican Party and brought into the White House.
As a rising star of the Republican National Committee, he masterminded the party's electoral strategy, brokering the redistricting (gerrymandering) reforms that kept them in power for over a decade.
When George Bush Senior became president, he made Michael his Chief Legal Counsel.
But Michael Hess was gay, and in a Republican Party that was rabidly homophobic, he was obliged to conceal his sexuality.
He was tormented by the double life he was forced to lead, and by the fact that his work was entrenching in power a party that victimised his friends and lovers.
When the president gave in to conservative demands to block funds for Aids research, Mike was plunged into despair.
He was tormented, too, by the absence of his mother and by the orphan's sense of helplessness.
He didn't know where he came from, didn't know who he was, or how he should live. He felt unloved by his adoptive father and brothers, living in fear that the stern, critical Doc Hess would discover his sexuality.
As a teenager, Mike had rowed with Doc, and Doc had told him he would no longer support him or pay his university fees. Mike suspected Doc knew he was gay.
As a practising Roman Catholic, he also felt guilt over his sexuality. He had a series of stormy relationships and was deeply disturbed when a spurned lover burned himself to death.
But Mike was loved by his adoptive mother and by Mary, the little girl who was plucked with him from the Roscrea convent and became his lifelong friend and 'sister'.
He found some happiness in a long-term relationship with a caring, loving partner - but he could never be at peace.
He went back to Roscrea, first in 1977 and again in 1993, to plead with the nuns to tell him how to find his mother. They turned him away.
On his return to the U.S., he plunged into alcohol, drugs and unbridled sexual indulgence.
It was as if the void he felt in his life was driving him into dangerous practices that put his reputation and career in jeopardy. For a gay man in the decade of Aids, it was close to courting a death sentence.
By the late 1980s, Mike found himself embarking on ever-more-frequent lost weekends in the gay bars and clubs of Washington and other cities.
His behaviour brought with it the terrible fear of exposure that would destroy him as a senior Republican official, but he could not stop himself.
On one of his lost weekends, he became infected with the HIV virus. He and Pete, his long-term partner, agonised over their future.
Mike kept his illness secret, refusing to tell his adoptive parents and urging Mary to tell no one. Pete stood by him, but Michael's health began to deteriorate. Fearing the worst, they flew to Roscrea in 1993 to make an emotional appeal to the nuns.

But still the nuns refused to tell him where he could find his mother, or indeed that her sisters and brother - his aunts and uncle - were living just a few miles down the road.
In desperation, Michael asked the Mother Superior if he could at least be buried in the convent if he were to die: he would put enough information on his gravestone to help his mother find out about his life 'if ever she comes looking for me'.
As we know (but Michael did not), Philomena was looking for him, returning to Roscrea, seeking traces of her son . . .
The hunt for Michael took me through state and Church archives, through adoption agencies, American university records and Republican Party sources before it led to the end of the trail and the story's poignant, unexpected conclusion.
It threw up a Hardyesque tale of coincidences and missed connections; and a powerful indictment of two historical eras: 1950s Ireland and 1980s America.
As we discovered, the nuns did agree to let Michael be buried in Roscrea - in return for a large donation to Church funds - and he did, indeed, put a 'message from beyond the grave' on his marble headstone, a message that ultimately allowed us to trace the path of his life.
'Michael Hess, a man of two nations and many talents,' the inscription reads. 'Born July 5, 1952, Sean Ross Abbey, Roscrea. Died August 15, 1995, Washington DC.'
Before his remains were flown to Ireland, the White House had staged a lavish memorial service for him. Many of the Republican Party leaders were there, and Ronald and Nancy Reagan sent personal messages of sympathy.
But nothing was said about his sexuality. Afterwards, Doc Hess had met Pete, Michael's partner, and was shocked to learn both that his son had been gay and that he had died of Aids.
Ultimately, my search brought me to an overgrown grave in a quiet country convent. In addition to Michael and Philomena's story, I had discovered the thousands of other lost 'orphans' whose lives were changed for ever by the greed and hypocrisy of Church and state.
Like Michael, many of them are still looking for their parents and, through them, for their identity.
Now in her 70s, Philomena is remarkably devoid of bitterness. She has started to go to Mass again. But she blames herself for everything - for giving her son away and for not speaking out about him earlier, when things could have been different.
'If only, Martin, if only. I curse myself every time I think of it. If only I'd mentioned it all those years ago, maybe he wouldn't . . .
'Oh Lord, it makes my heart ache. I'm sure there are lots of women to this very day who are the same as me; they haven't said anything . . . It is the biggest regret of my life and I have to bear that. It is my own fault, and now it is my woe.'
Knowing what happened to her son has at least resolved the doubts that haunted Philomena for half a century. I have stood with her at the side of his grave and heard how she speaks to him after the separation of all the years.
'Thank God you are back home again,' she says. 'You're here where I can visit you now.
But you came to this place and no one told you anything. No one told you I was looking for you and that I loved you, my son. How different it all could have been . . .'

The Lost Child Of Philomena Lee by Martin Sixsmith is published by Macmillan.

Parent and Pimp 7:'I had sex with Mick Jagger in Jerry Hall's bed,' says daughter of Mamas and Papas singer John Phillips

The name of the band should have been something other than 'The Mamas and the Papas'. Maybe, something like 'The prostitutes and the gigolos'.
Sexual immorality of this extreme nature, where a Fritzl-type of father preys on his own daughter, leads her in the path of immorality and depravity is shocking.

This guy should no longer be called 'Papa John' but renamed as 'Pimp(ing) John'! He's joined the list of Parents and Pimps.

'I had sex with Mick Jagger in Jerry Hall's bed,' says daughter of Mamas and Papas singer John Phillips
26th September 2009
The lead singer's daughter, actress Mackenzie Phillips, has accused her father of forcing her into an incestuous affair. But that was just the tip of the iceberg for the sex-obsessed Mamas and Papas. Just ask Mick Jagger...
During the late 1970s, the mink-wearing grand dames of an exquisite Beaux Arts apartment building overlooking New York's Central Park often found themselves sharing its magnificent marble lobby with a variety of beautiful models and groupies.
The destination of the latter contingent was a suite of rooms on one of the lower floors which had become the Manhattan home of Mick Jagger and his supermodel lover, Jerry Hall.

When Jerry was away on photo shoots, the most beautiful girls the city had to offer - hand-picked by Mick, who approached the selection of female conquests with an almost military zeal - queued up to take her place in his bed.

The next morning, the Rolling Stones frontman would wrap the girl in a fluffy white towelling robe, make her tea and toast, and ensure she was long gone by the time his blonde Texan girlfriend returned home.
One evening in January 1978, when Jerry was working in South America, Mick attended a party in the building thrown by one of his wealthy neighbours.
A fellow guest was his old friend John Phillips, ex-leader of hippy pop group The Mamas And The Papas, who had arrived at the soiree with his teenage daughter, Mackenzie.
As the party wore on, Mick suddenly announced he wanted a tuna salad sandwich. So Jagger, Phillips and the long-limbed Mackenzie took the lift down to Mick's apartment in search of food.

But as they prepared the snack in the vast kitchen of his elegant home, Mick announced he was out of mayonnaise - and dispatched Phillips back to the party to find some.

With the girl's father gone, he moved quickly. By the time Phillips returned a few minutes later, the priapic Jagger had bolted the door and was already in bed with the 18-year-old Mackenzie.
Miss Phillips recalls that night in her controversial memoirs, published in a blaze of publicity in the U.S. this week.

All of which might seem to be the perfectly reasonable reaction of a protective father faced with the nightmare scenario of his impressionable young daughter in the clutches of a notoriously lascivious rock star.

But if claims made by self-confessed former drug addict Miss Phillips in her book are to be believed, this was far from a classic case of understandable parental concern.
Because in a chilling testimony, Miss Phillips claims her famous father also had designs on her - and within a year of that night, they would begin an incestuous relationship.
'We went in to Jerry Hall's bedroom and had sex in their bed. My dad came back and knocked on the door yelling: "You've got my daughter in there!"'
It is a claim that has shocked a generation of fans who idolised Phillips - the composer of seminal Sixties anthems such as California Dreamin' and Monday, Monday - as one of the founding fathers of the hippy 'Flower Power' movement.
It has also provoked a backlash from two of Phillips' four ex-wives. His second wife Michelle Gilliam, who was also a member of The Mamas And The Papas, has branded Mackenzie a fantasist.

Mackenzie has a lot of mental illness,' Michelle said this week. 'She's had a needle stuck up her arm for 35 years. John was a bad parent and a drug addict. But doing this to his daughter? No.'
But to add to the controversy, Mackenzie's half-sister, singer Chynna Phillips, has also stepped into the row, saying she believes the claims.
Whatever the truth, Mackenzie's revelations about her father have overshadowed her painting of Jagger as a sleazy sexual opportunist with a taste for young girls (though Miss Phillips is quick to point out that the singer was insistent that he considered making a play for her only when she had passed the age of consent).
More importantly, her disclosures serve to reveal the squalid underbelly of drugs and sexual decadence that lurked below the surface of the Sixties' hippy movement.
Certainly, the chequered story of The Mamas And The Papas, who were once lauded as 'The American Beatles' and sold 40 million records in a little over two years in the middle of that decade, can be seen as parable of the age.
Theirs is a classic tale of drug addiction, wild sexual experimentation, wasted talent and the untimely deaths of three of the group's four original members.
The principal player in all this conspicuous excess was John Phillips, chief songwriter and creative genius behind the group, whose close harmonies and preaching of love and tolerance made them huge stars with lavish fortunes to match.
Phillips was the 6ft 4in son of a U.S. Marines officer, who had himself briefly flirted with a career in the military.
He formed The Mamas And The Papas in 1965 with wife Michelle, a Californian model, singer Denny Doherty and 22-stone Cass Elliot, 'Mama Cass'.
They found international fame a year later with California Dreamin' - the song Phillips wrote in New York to soothe his wife's homesickness - and went on to have 11 consecutive Top Ten singles in the American charts.
The following year, Phillips wrote the ultimate flower power anthem, San Francisco (Be Sure to Wear Some Flowers in Your Hair) - a British No 1 for Scott McKenzie.
But behind the scenes, the group was already riven with feuds caused by drug-taking, jealousy and their highly complicated personal lives.

Even as they topped the charts, Phillips was already cheating on Michelle, and soon began a clandestine affair with actress Mia Farrow, who at the time was married to Frank Sinatra.
When a furious Sinatra, who famously had links to Sam Giancana, the Chicago mafia boss, discovered that Phillips had been sleeping with Farrow in their marital bed while he was away on tour, he sent a bunch of heavies to warn him.
Undaunted, Phillips, who was already insisting on being addressed by his stage name, Papa John, went out and bought a small armoury of weapons to protect himself from Sinatra's Mob cronies.
He was also rumoured to have become close to Princess Margaret, whom he visited at the private Caribbean island of Mustique, where she would play piano and join him in singing bawdy versions of Chattanooga Choo Choo.
She would also secretly smuggle Phillips into her private quarters at Kensington Palace.
By way of retaliation, his blonde and angelic-looking wife Michelle embarked on her own series of adulterous relationships with a string of Hollywood leading men, including Jack Nicholson, Warren Beatty and film director Roman Polanski.
The couple bought a mock Tudor estate on a hilltop in upmarket Bel Air, where the Rolling Stones and The Beatles were regular guests. At debauched parties, guests were handed bowls of cocaine and LSD tablets as they entered the house.
By then, Phillips was already an addict, and his gilded life was fast unravelling. He was once so out of his head on drugs that he let his pet golden retriever, Trelawny, munch its way through a bag of the psychedelic drug mescaline.
The poor creature ran in circles for three days without stopping, then stared at himself in the mirror for 12 hours.
Later, after being arrested for his part in a pill-pushing ring, Phillips dyed the dog black as part of a botched plan to go on the run.
But his drug-taking would also inadvertently save his life. In August 1969, he was so stoned that he failed to turn up to a party in Cielo Drive, Hollywood.
That night, the inhabitants of the house, including film director Roman Polanski's pregnant wife Sharon Tate, were murdered by disciples of the psychotic Charles Manson.
Meanwhile, the sexual carousel continued as Phillips made conquests of a string of willing women, and Michelle began an affair with the other male singer in the group, Denny Doherty.
When Phillips discovered what was going on, he sacked his wife, telling her: 'You can do a lot of things to me Michelle, but you don't f*** my tenor.'

Meanwhile, the vastly overweight Mama Cass Elliot was secretly in love with Doherty and later proposed to him.
He turned her down, though he subsequently admitted to being so drugged up he could not remember her asking.
In 1974, three years after The Mamas And The Papas split up, 32-year-old Cass was found dead at her flat in London's Mayfair after suffering a heart attack in her sleep. (She did not choke on a ham sandwich, as urban myth has claimed.)
In the mid-1970s, Phillips, who by now had developed an addiction to heroin, was reunited with his children Jeffrey and Mackenzie (two of the five children he'd had by three different women), with whom he been in intermittent contact since his divorce from their socialite mother, Susan Adams, his first wife, in 1962.
The teenagers moved into his Los Angeles mansion, but it was no place for impressionable youngsters.
When she was just ten, Phillips had taught his daughter how to roll a joint.
In her new book, High On Arrival, Mackenzie, now 49, tells how her father would also leave 'little surprises' hidden around the house for his daughter to find - tabs of the morphine-like painkiller, Dilaudid.
Not surprisingly, actress Mackenzie, who appeared in the hit movie American Graffiti at the age of 12 and went on to star in the long-running U.S. sitcom One Day At A Time, soon developed a habit to match her father's.
She claims that her father first injected her with drugs when she was 17.
It was the start of a descent into addiction that saw her sacked from her £30,000-an-episode role in the TV show and would see her check into rehab on no fewer than nine occasions - the most recent being in November last year after she was caught with cocaine and heroin at Los Angeles airport.

But it is her insistence that she had an incestuous relationship with her father that is most shocking.
Mackenzie claims her father raped her for the first time in 1979, on the eve of her wedding to first husband Jeff Sessler, who worked for the Rolling Stones.
For the next several years, Miss Phillips shockingly claims, she and her father conducted a 'consensual' sexual relationship in the haze of their joint addictions.
Phillips, who wrote his own tell-all autobiography when his career had faded in the mid-1980s, is not in a position to defend himself from her allegations.
He died, aged 65, in 2001 of complications caused by a liver transplant. Band mate Denny Doherty died two years ago of a heart attack in his native Canada.
So with her family bitterly divided over the salacious claims, it seems we may never know the full truth.
What is undoubtedly the case is that these revelations have already done much to destroy the reputation of one of the true icons of the Sixties.

Cross-dressing Bobby Darling is heartbroken after being ??dumped by Munaf Patel

Cross-dressing Bobby Darling is heartbroken
25 September 2009
Usually when one is heart broken one tends to go into a shell resisting all attempts to be humoured. But not if you are Bobby Darling. Bobby, who has never been known to hide his emotions and, in fact, can be quite garrulous, is now rather melodramatically claiming from the rooftop that his heart is broken.

The breaker of his heart is none other than the 27-year-old burly cricketer Munaf Patel.
The lanky Munaf, who comes from the dusty town of Ikhar near Bharuch, shot into the spotlight in 2003 when he was projected as a scorching tearpart by former Australia pacer Denis Lillee. After a dream Test debut against England in 2006, where he picked five wickets at Nagpur, Munaf has fallen out of favour with the national selectors after a steady dip in his performances.

Bobby and Munaf met in Delhi at a nightclub. They were introduced by a common friend. Soon they started talking. A few minutes into the conversation and they were like a house on fire. Bobby then had a few drinks.

Bobby says, “A few hours later, he came to the hotel where I had checked in. He was very nice and sweet to me. We got along fabulously.” Bobby even showed this reporter the messages the two had exchanged.

The lovers’ tiff gets stranger with Munaf completely refuting the story saying “I did meet Bobby Darling in a nightclub in Delhi, He met me in presence of cricketers Ishant Sharma, Sarandeep Singh and Amit Sharma. But I didn’t go to the hotel where he was staying. Agar mujhe famous hona hota toh main koi actress se dosti kar leta. Woh film line apni line nahin hai. Kaisi dosti yaari?
Moreover, Bobby Darling is so much older than me.”

Hardly had Munaf told us this then Bobby called and wailed, “Munaf just called me up and shouted at me that I have told you everything.”
Evidently after the interlude at the hotel Bobby and Munaf had kept in touch through SMSes but later Munaf stopped responding to Bobby’s messages or taking his calls.
Bobby is now pining for Munaf who has seemingly dumped him. ‘I am very depressed,” he exclaims, adding, ‘Munaf should put himself in my position, only then will he know what it feels like to be jilted.”

Animal sacrificed banned on Sunday for Ayudha Puja

Scapegoats and Blood sacrifices are meant to appease Higher Authorities in the Heavens (or elsewhere), to take attention away from one's own blood.

Black magic and Superstitious practices affect animal lives besides the hallowed banana trees.

Human sacrifice is still worse and is know as 'Balijan' (Scapegoat) in Orissa.

Animal sacrificed banned on Sunday for Ayudha Puja
26 September 2009
BANGALORE: Animal sacrifice has been banned during Ayudha Puja on Sunday. The DG&IGP and the commissioner of the department of Hindu

relegious institutions and religious endowments has instructed deputy commissioners and superintendents of police to take measures to prevent animal sacrifice on that day.

Any person slaughtering animals in the name of religion, deity, festival, house-warming, vehicle sanctification and so on, will be punished under the Karnataka Animal Sacrifice Prohibition Act 1959.

The Akhila Karnataka Prani Daya Sangha had written to the religious endowments department to check on mass animal slaughter. In the letter, Dayananda Swamiji of the sangha had made special reference to thousands of animals being sacrificed in rural parts of the state on Ayudha Puja.

Friday, 25 September 2009

Facebook killers:Mafia Wars, a hugely popular game on the social networking site, is making college kids addicted to violence

Facebook killers:Mafia Wars, a hugely popular game on the social networking site, is making college kids addicted to violence. It’s all virtual of course, but experts warn of potential real-life damage
September 26, 2009 at 01:06:22 AM

There is a kind of undeclared war brewing on Facebook. If the gals, the metrosexuals and the left-field types have Farmville, then the macho types have their own Mafia Wars. Among college-going guys, Mafia Wars seems to be the most popular game these days. Well, if you think it is just brain dead hunks with Kalashnikovs going wham-wham, you are seriously mistaken.

This is adult stuff, and it pays to be creative and cunning. The guys who play it have a whole lot of underworld role models to pick from - sharpshooters and contractors to slumlords and proper dons - and the survival skills range from simple deceit and backstabbing to becoming life-long fifth columnists and managing a drug cartel or a gambling paradise.

And, boy, are the guys hooked! “This game is so addictive that I play this three times a day, for two hours each. Initially, I started off by learning the skill behind killing people by taking small mafia jobs.

I began my career in the game as an online killer by making some money through these jobs. Today, I am worth US $ 65,80,00,000. I have over 50 properties,” boasts Gnanaskandan V, a third-year engineering student at BMS College of Engineering, who in every other respect is a nerd.

Mafia Wars is a simulation of a real underworld. It has regular gang wars and peaceful interludes when depleted gangs cease fire to regroup. There is sharing and, if need be, even stealing of weapons, creating misunderstandings among gangs, and, occasionally, ganging up to jointly battle the common enemy, the cops.

The game has, in fact, spread its tentacles beyond the virtual world. Collegians are doing ‘favours’ in the game and getting them back through class tests, academic help and even relationships. “Recently, two of my friends declared war against each other and I had to take sides. In the game, the support you have determines if you will win or not. I supported the right candidate and he won! Later on, this person came over and thanked me for it and even offered to return the favour,” explains Karan Shetty, a student at Bangalore Medical College. About the favours, he said: “We had internals recently in college and I had to clarify many doubts. With so many favours due, I can approach anyone seeking help. They have to help me now,” he added. Karan has already taken part in over 100 killings, and fought over 1000 fights.

The prospect of making some quick virtual money through criminal empires is another driving factor. “There is a reason behind playing the game all through the day. The properties that we have generates revenue that has to be collected every three hours. I go online to do just that before the value deteriorates. I then invest them in more casinos, and become stronger,” explains Suhas Gaur.

The thrill Mafia Wars provides the participants is unmistakable but what about the violent proclivities it unconsciously breeds? “While older people can be more logical, such games can be particularly dangerous for youngsters in the 14-18 age group, who are still learning by imitation. They might try to imitate actions in these games in real life. Moreover, if it is a violent kid who has poor impulsive control, it is even more dangerous, as they may transfer their aggression into real life more often,” said Dr Thomas M J, Consultant Psychiatrist at Sagar Hospital.

Dr Thomas feels that young people who are diffident and not very assertive in real life, because of their inherent qualities and the kind of social environment they have been brought up, may enjoy playing these games because it gives them a chance to vent their hidden anger. Such games may also be popular among those who are generally aggressive in nature and impulsive and they are happy to show their aggression on such a platform. Mafia Wars and the like would also take time away from actual socialisation, studies and other activities that help in young adults’ social development. According to Dr Thomas, among younger people, these games may also influence them to think that violence is acceptable.

‘Be a farmer but not a mafia don’: This is the tip to students from college principals. With gaming in social networking sites luring students like never before, college managements are ready to compromise with games like Farmville but not Mafia Wars. Students were denied access to sites like Orkut though Facebook was an exception. But, with many students logging onto Facebook for games like Mafia Wars, college managements are installing firewalls to restrict the game.

“Encouraging students to become virtual mafia leaders is definitely not part of our culture. Though we know the game is for fun, it is not the appropriate age for students to play such games. I have already instructed my men to restrict the game through a firewall,” said J Surya Prasad, Principal of PES College of Engineering.

Joining the chorus, Rajanikanth, Principal of M S Ramaiah Institute of Technology said, “No student in our college can access the game. We have already banned it. Firstly, a college is not the place to play games. Secondly, we do not want such games where students give virtual ‘contracts’ to others.” Rana Pratap Reddy of Reva Engineering College said, “We will educate the students about the negativity of such games. We do not encourage such gaming by students in campuses.”

Here are some choice posts on Facebook:

Prithvi just iced Mike Linardo, bringing their total body count to 334 in Mafia Wars. Prithvi is offering you a special bonus to make you as fierce as they are!

Prithvi requested help in Cuba with the Capture An Army Outpost job in Mafia Wars.

Mafia Wars, Help Needed: Suraj is offering a bounty for any friend who fights their enemy: a level 14 Skilled Street Thug in Mafia Wars.

Gnana needs you to join their Mafia family in Mafia Wars.

Prithvi requested help in Cuba with the Silence a Noisy Neighbour job in Mafia Wars.

Mafia Wars, War Victory: Prithvi’s friends overwhelmed Niteen Nj’s Mafia. Prithvi Bhaskar rewarded their friends with a free Sodium Pentothal in Mafia Wars.

Prithvi requested help with the Whack a Rival Crew Leader job in Mafia Wars.

Vikram requested help with the Smuggle Across the Border job in Mafia Wars.

'Wife suspecting husband of affair doesn't amount to cruelty': High Court of Mumbai

'Wife suspecting husband of affair doesn't amount to cruelty': High Court of Mumbai
Kartikeya, TNN 26 September 2009
MUMBAI: "After marriage, no wife may tolerate the company of another lady friend in her husband's life,'' observed the Bombay High Court on Thursday while setting aside a divorce order granted to a Pune techie and his lecturer wife.

Sameer Zagade (33) got a divorce from his wife, Rupali, this May after alleging that her suspicion and constant questioning of his "friendship'' with another woman amounted to an act of cruelty. The family court had also agreed with Sameer that Rupali's filing of a complaint against him and his parents under the Domestic Violence Act was a reasonable ground to grant a divorce.

Sameer, an IT firm employee with a monthly salary of Rs 70,000, was married to Rupali, an engineering college lecturer, in 2002. They had a daughter a year later but, according to Rupali, things took a turn for the worse when Shubha -- an old friend of Sameer -- got a divorce and started visiting their house regularly.

Sameer argued that Shubha was a "family friend'' and he was not having an affair with her. He said Rupali was extremely suspicious and would even call up his office and friends to enquire if he was having a relationship with another woman. He explained his absence from home till late at night saying he was caught at work.

Rupali, on her part, alleged that Sameer would spend hours chatting on the net with Shubha, she would come regularly to their house and that she had even seen the duo eating from the same plate.

While hearing the appeal against the divorce, Justices P B Majmudar and R V More ruled that Rupali's suspicions were justified. They observed that a "housewife would normally expect her husband to be at home within reasonable time at night''. Siding further with Rupali, they said that any wife would have a "reasonable apprehension'' about the "character of her husband'' if he regularly got back home after midnight.

As far as Rupali's complaint filed under the Domestic Violence Act in November 2007 was concerned, the high court held that merely filing of such complaints could not be treated as an act of cruelty by a wife. The judges observed that if it were so then no woman would ever be able to complain under the law.

Finally, ordering Sameer and Rupali to get back together, the court advised that they work upon their marriage and learn to adjust with each other, especially since they had a child to bring up as well.

(Names have been changed to protect identities of those involved.)

Save the Girl Child:Schools urged to give birthday cards to girls

Before telling Schools to give birthday cards to girls, it would be advisable to advise Parents & relatives to give Girl Children in their families Cards.
Charity begins at HOME, not in the School.

Save the Girl Child:Schools urged to give birthday cards to girls
25 September 2009
PALANPUR: In a novel way to promote the Save The Girl Child' campaign, schools are being urged to give greeting cards to girl students on their birthdays.

This innovative idea is the brainchild of Rashmi Hada, president of Mahila Kala Nidhi Trust in Kanodar, Banaskantha. This drawing teacher in a village primary school has designed the card and even printed 5,000 copies. She has been contacting schools to implement her idea. "I have been getting tremendous response so far," said Rashmi.

District collector R J Patel on Wednesday lauded her efforts, saying it will change the traditional ideas associated with girl child. "Traditionally, many families consider girls a burden. By celebrating birthdays of girls, they will be given their rightful place in society," said Dilharben, principal of woman's PTC college Sthri Adhyapan Mandir.

Observed trustee of orphanage Santipuram, Sadhvi Sarlaben, "Rashmi's idea is great. Why just schools, everyone should follow the example and greet their girl child on her birthday." The greeting cards may be symbolic. But, their psychological effects will be far greater, said Yamini Desai, secretary of Bhagini Samaj in Patan.

"Sex ratio in Unjha taluka of Mehsana district had dropped to an alarming 742 per thousand in 2001, as against 888 per thousand in 1991," said Rashmi, who has been associated with the Save The Girl Child campaign in north Gujarat for some time.

Latest figures reveal that in Mehsana in 2006 there were 1,622 girls and 1,879 boys born, said chief district health officer (CDHO) Nayan Jani. In 2007, 1,381 girls and 1,518 boys were born.

"There has been a discerning change in attitude of educated young couples. However, the deep-rooted social evil of giving preference to boys over girls still exists among influential upper castes holding sway over society and economy," said B M Dave, professor of economics at a local arts college.

Efforts made by government, NGOs and others have shown encouraging results. However, positive developments will come to light only after the 2011 census report is available, said Rashmi.

One in 10 inmates in Britain's jails is an ex-soldier, shock figures reveal

This should answer the doubts of a certain anonymous commentator named 'S', who was blue in the face and in denial about Abusive Army men in the Indian Army.

Read my previous blog of 'Biography of Child abuse victim' in a family with Armed Forces veterans.

One in 10 inmates in Britain's jails is an ex-soldier, shock figures reveal
25th September 2009
The Government was under fire for failing to support British troops returning from war today after figures revealed nearly one in 10 prisoners is an Armed Forces veteran.

Shocking research by the probation officers' union Napo shows some 8,500 former soldiers are currently in prison in England and Wales.

Another 12,000 have criminal convictions and are on the books of the Probation Service.

This means there are more than twice as many veterans in jail, on probation or on parole in the UK than the number of troops currently serving in Afghanistan.

Veterans in Scotland and Northern Ireland are not included, meaning the true figure is likely to be much higher.

The data was branded a 'disgrace' today as it reignited the debate over the level of protection and support offered to former military personnel.

Napo said the situation was of 'grave concern' and added to 'overwhelming evidence' that support for ex-soldiers simply was not good enough.

Assitant general secretary Harry Fletcher said: 'There must be a duty of care with the state to offer proper support, advice and counselling to soldiers, when they are putting their lives on the line.

'At the moment, many seem to cope by using alcohol and drugs, which leads them to depression, violence and offending.'

He added: 'If it's good enough for soldiers to risk their lives on the frontline then surely it must be good enough to offer them support and counselling on their return.'

The figures will only fuel growing concern about the overall treatment of the forces after a summer of rows over lack of equipment amid mounting deaths and injuries.

Just today, a senior general who had clashed with ministers over the Afghan conflict and policy towards the military revealed he is quitting.

Army sources told the Mail that Major General Andrew Mackay's decision to take early retirement was linked to his growing unhappiness over the treatment of troops.

Napo said its members reported that the 'vast majority' of veterans were not getting the support or counselling they need when they return to civilian life.

According to a sample analysis of 90 people on probation or parole, one in three had chronic alcohol abuse and one in 10 was on drugs.

Domestic violence was by far the most likely conviction for a veteran, accounting for one in three cases. Other violent crimes accounted for around one in five convictions.

One in four said they had post-traumatic stress disorder, but many went undiagnosed. Others cited depression and behavioural problems.

The group who took part included veterans from the conflicts in Northern Ireland, Bosnia, Iraq and Afghanistan.

Although the sample was small, the figures give the best indication yet about the sheer scale of the struggle faced by ex-soldiers when they come home.

Neither the Ministry of Defence nor the Ministry of Justice currently publish figures on veterans in custody or on probation.

Shadow justice secretary Dominic Grieve said: 'It is a disgrace that so many who have served their country are languishing in our prisons. No-one is above the law, but this Government has failed to provide proper support to our troops on return home.'

David Hill, chief executive of charity Combat Stress, said he was 'not surprised' by the findings and urged ministers to look again at the services provided.

'Both the increase in demand for services and the severe and complex presentations we are seeing indicate to us that the six NHS Veterans' Mental Health Pilots are not adequate to deal with the scale and size of the problem,' he said.

The Ministry of Defence insisted the vast majority of former service personnel make a 'successful return' to civilian life.

'A small minority can face serious difficulties and we provide a wide range of support, before, during and after leaving the services, including the MoD's Prison In-Reach initiative,' a spokesman said.

A Ministry of Justice spokesman added: 'People entering the criminal justice system are from a range of backgrounds and present a variety of issues which have contributed to their offending behaviour. Staff support individuals in addressing these issues, working towards their rehabilitation.'