Petition to Conduct CBI Enquiry into Murder of Dr J A Mathan

Monday, 28 June 2010

Biography of a Wife deceived by a 'Husband' into a Bigamous marriage(s): Chapter 16. You can fool some people sometimes.....

Biography of a Wife deceived by a 'Husband' into a Bigamous marriage(s): Chapter 16. You can fool some people sometimes.....

Main Characters:
1. Meera -The Legally Wedded Wife or Narrator in USA (Married by Civil Registered Marriage)
2. Veena - Yet another wife in India and Young widow (Married by Hindu Religious rites)
3. Balaji aka Krishna -The Bigamous Husband in USA (The Charming Con-Artist)
4. Roshan - Veena's Fatherless orphan from previous marriage with Madan
5. Madan -First husband of Veena, who died an unnatural death with unfinished business
6. Leena - First wife of Balaji in USA, compelled psychiatrist treatment to Balaji
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Date of Writing: 28 June 2010
Date of Editing: 28 June 2010
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You can fool some people sometimes but you can't fool all the people all the times
said "President Abraham Lincoln".

Veena's family reported how Dr. Balaji aka Krishna is answering questions ....

When Krishna was asked...

Q: Why did you marry Meera?
Liar Krishna says, "Meera forced him to marry."
LOL.. Is he a 5 year old kid ?..Krishna posted his profile on Shaadi.com and started fishing in Oct 2004 immediately after marriage. He married Meera and marriage was registered legally in court. Krishna took a oath in court as this was his second marriage (not third) and that he was divorced, and had no subsistign (existing) Marriage as Impediment.

Q: Why did not you contact Veena for six years?
Con artist Krishna says, "Meera locked him in a room and never allowed to call Veena. So he could not contact Veena and her family."
What a joke? Can 250 pound person be locked in a room ? What about his job? His tennis? His flirting around in home town daily?

Q: Why didn't you pick up Veena's call for so many years?
Wicked Krishna blames Meera again and says "Meera did not allow to pick up the calls. She locked him up in the room."
Reality is when Veena and her family kept calling, Meera tried to pick up the phone and Krishna didn't allow her to pick up the calls. He confronted Meera and told her not to pick up the calls. Who will believe his false stories?

Q: Why didn't you send money to support Veena?
Greedy Krishna says, "He was sending money to Leena his first wife as Leena was not taking care of his kids well. Leena was asking more and more money for kids."
True story is Krishna never paid child support to Leena for several years. Leena was paying child support regularly to Krishna.

Q: Why are you contacting now?
Selfish Krishna says, "You are my wife and I will bring you to USA next month."
Secret story is Krishna needs Veena's support to save his life from Jail now. So, he started communicating her after Meera filed a bigamy. Krishna wants Veena to deny their marriage so that he can be legally safe. That is the main reason why Krishna started communication with her.
Why was Krishna fishing on Shaadi.com after his marriage with Veena? Why did he tell his friends that Veena is uneducated, Pagal and crazy woman? How will she communicate with my kids? etc. Will he really bring her to USA as his wife? He is in desperate need of a maidservant as he can't do any physical work. Is Veena willing to be his free maidservant?

“Liars begin by imposing upon others, but end deceiving themselves”
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Voice of Women is pleased to present the BIOGRAPHY OF A WIFE DECEIVED INTO MARRIAGE BY HER 'HUSBAND' AFTER CONCEALING AN EXISTING MARRIAGE.

Inspired by the success of the 'Chronicles of a Battered Abused Discriminated and Disadvantaged Fatherless Girl-child'----A WIFE has come forward with her "Testimony of a Legally wedded wife to a man who has concealed an existing marriage".

This TESTIMONY brings to LIGHT the Strenuous circumstances of LEGALLY WEDDED EDUCATED WOMEN, who are facing deception from 'CHARMING MEN'.

The core issue of the Biography is to look for Solutions for "Deception and Concealment of existing marriages by MEN" in our Homes, Community, Society and the Corporate World. The solutions include Counseling, Healing, Family Forums and other Alternative Counseling Forums.
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Disclaimer: The Story is told in the first person narrative by the "Legally Wedded Wife".

For reasons of confidentiality, please don't assume the identity of the 'other characters in the story- namely the Bigamous husband'. The entire story has been placed in custody of certain well-wishers. Names and identities of characters have been masked and changed to protect their identities. Let us call the name of the LEGALLY WEDDED WIFE as 'Meera'.

Images used are only representative of the story.

Strong Legal action will be taken in Bangalore jurisdiction, against all those who claim to resemble or know the identity of any characters mentioned in this Biography.

Friday, 25 June 2010

Sexual harassment case of David Davidar: It was consensual flirting says Davidar

http://www.dnaindia.com/india/report_it-was-consensual-flirting-david-davidar_1399562
The statement can be seen as a blow to Davidar, who is fighting allegations of sexual harassment and had earlier denied wrongdoing, even as he quit Penguin. His resignation was made public on June 9.

The statement did not elaborate on what exactly is a “consensual flirtatious relationship”.

Rundle had sued Penguin for $423,000, claiming that she was sexually harassed by Davidar, who was then CEO. She also sued Davidar for $100,000. While the author had earlier denied the charges, the latest statement is clearly an acceptance.

The statement strongly refutes the charge of sexual harassment. Davidar apologised to his wife (at the beginning and at the end of the three-page statement) and admitted to having kissed Rundle twice. The statement insisted that Davidar did not “force his way into Rundle’s room”, nor did he force the kiss.

Rundle had claimed that Davidar had pushed his tongue into her mouth, after forcibly entering her room while the two were attending the Frankfurt book fair in October 2009. The statement said Rundle told Davidar that she enjoyed the kiss and that she continued to meet him thereafter.

Author Ashok Banker, who came out strongly against Davidar in his blog (he claims the site’s server crashed due to the tremendous response), was quick to update his blog to say Davidar admitted all.

Banker had blogged that he was aware of Davidar’s past liaisons and was not surprised with the charge of sexual harassment. He had written that the Indian media and publishing world were refusing to report the facts merely to protect one of their own.

His blog had responses from two women who claimed they never had a problem while working at Penguin India in New Delhi, when Davidar was boss.

Magazine publisher Maneck Davar rubbished the charge that the media and publishing world had closed ranks. “While in any industry there will always be some powerful people, most of us are not speaking out because few know the facts.”

Shobhaa De, touted as a Davidar ‘discovery’, wrote that while the author and his wife Rachna were good friends, she was unwilling to comment on a case she does not know much about.

Davidar is the author of The House of Blue Mangoes (2002), which was translated into 16 languages and was a New York Times Notable Book. His second novel, The Solitude of Emperors (2007), was a finalist for the Commonwealth Writers’ Prize.

Monday, 21 June 2010

Biography of a Wife deceived by a 'Husband' into a Bigamous marriage(s): Chapter 15. Dr. Balaji Krishna name listed under International crime watch

Biography of a Wife deceived by a 'Husband' into a Bigamous marriage(s): Chapter 15. Dr. Balaji Krishna name listed under International crime watch


Main Characters:
1. Meera -The Legally Wedded Wife or Narrator in USA (Married by Civil Registered Marriage)
2. Veena - Yet another wife in India and Young widow (Married by Hindu Religious rites)
3. Balaji aka Krishna -The Bigamous Husband in USA (The Charming Con-Artist)
4. Roshan - Veena's Fatherless orphan from previous marriage with Madan
5. Madan -First husband of Veena, who died an unnatural death with unfinished business

6. Leena - First wife of Balaji in USA, compelled psychiatrist treatment to Balaji

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Date of Writing: 19 June 2010
Date of Editing: 19 June 2010
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Dr. Balaji Krishna's name listed under International Crime watch

Dr. Balaji Krishna denied his luxurious marriage took place in India. What was the reason for hiring lawyer to resist and have objection for investigation in India if marriage did not take place? Judge understood con artist's game and ordered an investigations in India. Order from IL court Judge reached Secretary of State to get an approval for proceedings this matter as international criminal investigations. Bigamy is considered a serious crime and categorized as class 4 Felony (730 ILCS 5/5-8-1 & 5/5-9-1) in USA. In IL state penalty is $25k and 1 to 3 years in Pen (720 ILCS 5/11-12) (from Ch. 38, par. 11-12). Secretary of State put a US GOLD seal on proceedings as International Criminal matter for further investigations.

Marriage took place in India and Bigamy is a serious crime in that country also. Whoever, having a husband or wife living, marries in any case in which such marriage is void by reason of its taking place during the life of such husband or wife, shall be punished with imprisonment of either description for a term which may extend to seven years, and shall also be liable to fine.

Confirming the laws of both countries on bigamy, a matter has been considered as a criminal proceedings andDr. Balaji Krishna's name listed as "International Criminal." Dr. Balaji Krishna is under a watch list of Police and legal authority of two countries i.e. India and USA. As a part of international crime watch listings, they obtained a list his family members, close friends and relatives from both countries.

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Voice of Women is pleased to present the BIOGRAPHY OF A WIFE DECEIVED INTO MARRIAGE BY HER 'HUSBAND' AFTER CONCEALING AN EXISTING MARRIAGE.

Inspired by the success of the 'Chronicles of a Battered Abused Discriminated and Disadvantaged Fatherless Girl-child'----A WIFE has come forward with her "Testimony of a Legally wedded wife to a man who has concealed an existing marriage".
This TESTIMONY brings to LIGHT the Strenuous circumstances of LEGALLY WEDDED EDUCATED WOMEN, who are facing deception from 'CHARMING MEN'.

The core issue of the Biography is to look for Solutions for "Deception and Concealment of existing marriages by MEN" in our Homes, Community, Society and the Corporate World. The solutions include Counseling, Healing, Family Forums and other Alternative Counseling Forums.
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Disclaimer: The Story is told in the first person narrative by the "Legally Wedded Wife".
For reasons of confidentiality, please don't assume the identity of the 'other characters in the story- namely the Bigamous husband'. The entire story has been placed in custody of certain well-wishers. Names and identities of characters have been masked and changed to protect their identities. Let us call the name of the LEGALLY WEDDED WIFE as 'Meera'.

Images used are only representative of the story.

Strong Legal action will be taken in Bangalore jurisdiction, against all those who claim to resemble or know the identity of any characters mentioned in this Biography.

Friday, 18 June 2010

Join the Fathers Day rally tomorrow (19 June 2010)


Join the Fathers Day rally tomorrow
http://www.hinduonnet.com/2010/06/18/stories/2010061865160700.htm
18 June 2010
Implementation of shared parenting as a rule in divorce, separation cases sought

BANGALORE: Children's Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting, (CRISP), an NGO, is organising a “National Fathers Day Rally” on June 19 near Mahatma Gandhi statue on Mahatma Gandhi Road demanding implementation of shared parenting as a rule in divorce and separation cases, basic right of children to access both biological parents.

CRISP president Kumar V. Jahgirdhar told presspersons here on Wednesday that child rights were as important as women's rights and children need love and affection of both parents.

Jayanth T.K., counsellor, said: “Shared parenting should be implemented in divorce and separation cases. This will ensure that child is not deprived of the love and affection of both parents.”

Roshni Mathan, women's rights activist, said that children need both parents. Mr. Anil Kumar president of Save Indian Family, an NGO, said that anybody misusing the provisions of the Domestic Violence Act should be punished.

Thursday, 17 June 2010

Father’s Day: Spare a thought to those suffering from legal battles over child custody

Picture: CRISP activists addressing press conference

Father’s Day: Spare a thought to those suffering from legal battles over child custody
18 Jun 2010
As usual, the doctor appeared quite confident of his success. And why wouldn’t he? One of the perks that came with a professional life that boasted of successfully handling thousands of such ‘critical’ cases over the last 10 years or more was confidence.
Only the place and predicament were different this time. Standing firmly in the witness box, he was used to the public gaze that never unnerved him. But there was somebody sitting in the front row of the room, constantly staring at the him; quite discomforting for him.

Finally, the judge delivers the verdict. The doctor has lost the case. Standing stunned for a few minutes, he suddenly turns into a picture of contrast.

Confidence gave way to anxiety; hands, which were always firm in wielding the scalpel, started trembling; eyes, which had never exhibited emotions, became moist. He collapses and breaks down in tears.

The ‘somebody’ sitting in the front row seat was his daughter. Dr Anand Parekh had not met Shruti for a year, and had been fighting for her custody since last six years.

Now, he has lost all—his daughter as well as interest in life. While the world will celebrate Father’s Day this Sunday, for many like Dr Parekh it will be a day to mourn. “What’s the point in being a father when you are deprived of your child,” said a devastated Dr Parekh. “Just because I didn’t give birth to her, doesn’t mean I can’t bring her up properly. A father can also be a mother.”

Fast-food culture, fast-paced life and fast disintegrating families — India has seen all in the last decade or so. The only two things that have not changed perhaps are the excruciatingly slow pace of justice, and a notion that man can’t play the role of a mother.

“It’s an old notion and goes back to the time when women didn’t have a professional life and took care of the family,” said S Susheela, a Bangalore-based advocate practising in the Karnataka High Court.

“So, it was thought that she could bring up the children in a more proper manner and spend more quality time with them. But now such a notion no longer holds true.” These days both the parents are working and can equally bring up the child, she adds. “For a child, both the parents are equally important and his/her isolation from either of them should be condemned.”

Most of the child custody battles in the country, unfortunately, have become a man versus woman fight, a fight in which the child is used as a pawn.

“We had a divorce by mutual consent and it was decided that my five-year-old son would stay with me. But after seven months, my wife files a case in the court saying that she is the natural guardian and court grants her permission to take away my son,” says Sunil Dabas, who works as a manager in one of the MNC banks in New Delhi.

“I used to bathe my little son, prepare his school lunch box, drop him to the school and play cricket with him every evening. And one fine day I am told that I can’t bring up my child properly because that can be done in a better way by a woman!,” says Sunil with a choked voice.

Husband and Pimp 3: South Delhi businessman held for forcing wife into group sex

Husband and Pimp 3: South Delhi businessman held for forcing wife into group sex
Jun 17, 2010
NEW DELHI: In a bizarre case of domestic torture, a south Delhi businessman has been arrested on charges of forcing his wife to have group sex with his family members and a business partner. The victim alleged that she suffered the ordeal silently for four years because her husband's family had threatened to harm her nephew if she spoke out about her experiences.

The accused, Kuldeepak Arora, who is an exporter besides having business interests in Mumbai and Hong Kong, was nabbed from IGI Airport while leaving for Nepal. His wife had lodged the FIR from her hometown, Surat.

The Delhi and Surat police said that lookout notices will be issued soon against Arora's other family members who are allegedly absconding.

Police sources said following a matrimonial advertisement by the Aroras, woman first met Kuldeepak in 2003 in London, where she was staying with her relatives. They got married in Surat in April 2004.

"Everything worked well for the first few years but her in-laws began pressuring her for dowry soon after. The victim claims she found that her husband had been married before and he had not divorced his first wife. She has also alleged that the ill-treatment meted out to her even led to a miscarriage. On her husband's insistence, she developed physical relations with his business partner, brother and brother-in-law," said investigating officer Surendra Gala of the Surat police. He claimed the police had evidence on the sexual "orgies" the victim was forced into.

According to Gala, the FIR was lodged on April 4 against Arora, who is based out of East of Kailash. "The FIR names the accused along with his brother, brother-in-law and his business partner of forcing her to have group sex with them. The FIR goes on to state that the accused often beat her up and threatened her not to report the incidents to the police," he said.

The FIR has been lodged under sections 498A (subjecting a married woman to cruelty), 307 (attempt to murder), 376 (rape), 377 (unnatural offences), 506(2) (criminal intimidation) and 114 (abetment of any offence) and sections 3 and 7 of the dowry Act.

"We found the Aroras' houses in East of Kailash, Delhi, and Goregaon in Mumbai locked. We are seeking the court's permission to check the premises," Gala said.

Through these years, the woman kept corresponding with her friends and family in India and abroad. "Her relatives and friends have told us that they knew that she were unhappy but had never imagined the torture she was going through," said the officer. When she finally could bear it no longer, she went to her hometown to lodge the case. "We have leads on the movements of his other relatives. We will arrest them about ensuring that they do not flee the country," Gala added.

Monday, 14 June 2010

Father's Day Rally organised in Bangalore by CRISP (Children's Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting) and supported by VOW and AIDPF

Press Conference in Bangalore:Shivashankar (SIFF), Jayanth (CRISP), Kumar Jahgirdar (CRISP), Anil (SIFF), Roshni Mathan (Voice of Women and Families/AIDPF)


Father's Day Rally organised in Bangalore by CRISP (Children's Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting) and supported by Voice of Women and Families (VOW India) and AIDPF (All India Daughter's Protection Forum)

14 June 2010 Bangalore
CHILDREN’S RIGHTS INITIATIVE FOR SHARED PARENTING have organized a “NATIONAL FATHERS DAY RALLY” on 19th June 2010, to stop the creation of a fatherless society which coincides with fathers day which is celebrated throughout the world to recognize and to honor the fathers for everything they are doing for the children & express gratitude for their love, care and protection to their children. The function is organized on 19th June between 10:00 AM to 1.30 PM at Mahatma Gandhi Statue, MG Road, Bangalore.

Parental Alienation: Psychological Effects on the Child: Parental alienation occurs when one parent estranges the children from the other parent for personal vendetta. Children are brainwashed (used as pawns in divorce/ separation) by the dominant parent against the non-custodial parent (usually fathers). This brings a lot of mental distress & trauma to the child and the alienated parent and is particularly damaging to the child’s psychology and is Child Abuse.

Extensive psychological studies over decades collectively called “The Spectrum of Parental Alienation Syndrome1” describe the detrimental effects on the child. In western countries, mainly U.S and Europe, organizations (including medical, judicial & NGOs) have gone into the depths of this and are trying hard to preserve families and save children. Unfortunately, our own country which once prided possessing “family values” now needs to learn basic lessons from the west. Its a well known fact that neglected children and children from broken families are more prone to take to crime. In India, NOT even a single such study/ research has been done. There is a serious need to commit to research and save children from this situation, which is completely being ignored. As a society, we are largely ignorant of the effects.

Judicial & Governmental Apathy: Anti-Child, Anti-Father & Anti-Family: Divorce/ Separation is between spouses. Not child and parent. This is common sense. There is no law requiring a normal father to keep away from his child, in divorce/ separation proceedings. On the other hand, U.N’s Child Rights Convention (to which India also acceded about 20 years ago and then did nothing about) requires the state (of which the Judicial systems are a part) to ensure that the child does not suffer separation! However, the way justice is administered, the child is separated from the father (mostly) for years! One has to “apply” for “visitation” that takes years to “grant” and even then for a paltry time. Innocent children suffer because parents are separating & fight for their egos! Our judicial mechanism has a deplorable understanding of child welfare based on biased and outdated social concepts. The father is a relegated to a mere “visitor”, eliminating involvement in the child’s life and just a “maintenance” paying ATM machine. It virtually condemns the child to an illegitimate. This is neither in the child’s nor the family’s interest and destroys the foundation for the future generation.

The Indian judiciary would do well to educate itself, provide training to judges and inculcate good international practices in the family law systems. The judiciary must become more accountable, transparent, improve the quality of justice and urgently implement extensive judicial reforms in right earnest, if it wishes to be a credible and potent justice system.

Why is a Family institution needed in the first place? Family is the most fundamental building block of society. It builds healthy human beings and healthy society. When family system breaks, its leads to serious social consequences4 and surge in crime rates. A main contributor to teenage pregnancies is broken families. It’s well known that children from broken homes are more prone to crime.

From here it’s a short step to even more serious anti-national crimes like terrorism. Social upheaval/ instability are heavily exploited by anti-nationals and terrorists.

CRISP’s Achievements: Extensively campaigned to implement SHARED PARENTING. Currently engaging with the government on this. In-fact, National Commission for Protection Of Child Rights (NCPCR), Government of India appreciated CRISP for educating the society and legal fraternity on the significance of Shared Parenting.

1. CRISP has created a national forum and made representations to the Chief Justice of India, WCD Ministry and Law Commission to make Shared Parenting mandatory.

2. Over 2500 members strong and growing. Now CRISP has 7 chapters across the nation.

3. Mothers who have been deprived of child custody are also members of CRISP.

4. Some reputed women’s organizations are supporting CRISP’s efforts.

5. Engaging with leading medical professionals to provide quality counseling. This is to prevent suicides of deprived and abused fathers like Syed Makhdoom who committed suicide and whose child is now fatherless.

6. CRISP has conducted several workshops, seminars and press meets pertaining to children issues and sensitized the society and successfully spread the message of shared parenting.

7. Many deprived parents have benefited from CRISP counseling and have successfully got orders for weekends and 50% vacation custody of their children.

8. CRISP provides quality information through its website www.crisp-india.org. Thousands of victims have made use of this information which is the first of its kind in the country.

CRISP’s Demands:

• Basic right of children to access both biological parents

• Implementation of UN’s Child Rights Convention and Hague’s Convention on Parental Child Abduction.

• Implement SHARED PARENTING / JOINT CUSTODY as a rule in separation and divorce cases.

• Setting up Special Guardian Courts in every major city

• Speedy and quality justice (within 3 months)

• Rational and Gender neutral Family Laws (including DV Act)

• Create a separate Child Welfare Ministry at the National Level and separate from WCD Ministry

• Laws against International Parental Child Abduction and Child Alienation

• Enroll organizations like NIMHANS to carry out research on Child Psychology of separated children. Laws to be framed based on scientific studies.

• Compulsory counseling to parent-litigants on Shared Parenting for child’s welfare.

• Ban child interviews of tender age children, who have not had adequate access with the noncustodial parent.

• Appoint psychologists/ child psychologists as mediators and to encourage shared parenting.

• Ban lawyers as mediators! They are suited for arbitration not mediation!

• Ban lawyers form Family Courts (implement the Family Court Act which discourages engaging lawyers).Encourage party in person after giving adequate counseling.

• Grant visitation rights to grand parents who want to have access to the grandchildren.

• Harsh Punishment for Child Abusers including non-compliance of court orders concerning child visitation.

• Punish people who misuse dowry & domestic violence act as a weapon to cut off the children from the father.

• Make the domestic violence act gender neutral and also to protect the child from domestic violence from even the mother.

We appeal & invite our media friends to kindly grace the occasion since media has a very important role in educating the society on this highly sensitive subject of children who constitute 40% of the population and not vote banks & ensure our children are saved from being fatherless since the divorce rates in the cities are escalating and in Bangalore alone there are over 15000 cases pending.

Monday, 7 June 2010

Cuckoo bird syndrome: Jacob Zuma faces family scandal


Cuckoo bird syndrome: Jacob Zuma faces family scandal
06/06/2010
South African President Jacob Zuma is battling another scandal concerning his private life, this time involving newspaper reports that his second wife is pregnant after an affair with her bodyguard.

A prominent South African news outlet, The Star, reported yesterday that the National Intelligence Agency had been called in to investigate the reports, which surfaced this week that Nompumelelo Ntuli Zuma has been impregnated by her bodyguard, Soweto-born Phinda Thomo, at her Durban mansion. Thomo killed himself when the pregnancy became obvious, local media said.

The polygamous Zuma's office broke its silence two days ago, saying the reports violated his privacy and were part of a coordinated smear campaign. "The reports appear to be part of an ongoing and malicious campaign to undermine the right of the President and his family to privacy and dignity," the Presidency said in a terse statement, according to The Star. "President Zuma continues to be seized with matters of State and will not be diverted from his duties," it added. "He will not dignify such gossip with a response."

The reports on the scandal, which started mid-week in a Zulu-language newspaper, are based on an anonymous letter leaked to several South African media outlets. Zuma, was due to return Saturday from a state visit to India, where he was accompanied by the wife in question.

Zuma, who is said to be incensed by the revelations, has summoned his family and the clan elders to an urgent family summit at his KwaZulu-Natal homestead today as his chief bodyguard assists intelligence officers in establishing exactly who authored the letter that was sent simultaneously to four different newspaper houses during the week.

The letter - purportedly written by an angry member of Zuma's supersized family of three wives and at least 21 children, paints Ntuli in a particularly bad light, claiming the child she is carrying is not Zuma's but her bodyguard's. The bodyguard then reportedly shot himself when the pregnancy became obvious. The writer claims Zuma is sticking by her in a bid to protect not just his personal reputation, but the stature of his office.

Purporting to speak on behalf of the family, the writer said the family believed Zuma had made the biggest mistake of his life by marrying Ntuli. The letter claims Zuma was forced to accommodate Ntuli in a mansion in Durban because Ntuli had become disruptive at the Nkandla homestead, being openly disrespectful of Zuma's first wife, MaKhumalo.

After Zuma married Ntuli in 2008, "we saw the real Ntuli's true colours", claims the letter, alleging that the second wife would gamble and drink to excess, borrowing money from close friends of the Zuma family and prominent businessmen. Problems came to a head when Zuma decided to marry a third time to Thobeka Madiba in January. Ntuli was pointedly absent from the wedding celebrations.

The scandal is likely to cause embarrassment in South Africa as it prepares to host the soccer World Cup, which kicks off in Johannesburg on Friday, June 11. In February, Zuma confirmed he had fathered an illegitimate child with the daughter of Irvin Khoza, a close friend and head of the World Cup local organizing committee.

Multiple marriages form a part of Zulu culture and are allowed in South Africa. Zuma, a Zulu traditionalist, has been married five times, but currently only has three wives.

Matters reached boiling point last year, with MaNtuli jostling for pole position at Zuma's inauguration. She is said to have seen Thobeka as a real threat, as Zuma had been in a relationship with Thobeka far longer than with her, even though he weded MaNtuli first.

Just before Christmas, the situation had deteriorated to such an extent that Zuma banished her from the household.
Shortly afterwards, reports began emerging of unpaid bills for water and lights at the Durban mansion.

Sunday, 6 June 2010

Biography of Wife deceived by 'Husband' into Bigamous marriage(s): Chapter 14. Three Weddings and a Funeral;One Divorce,Two Honemoons,Three moneymoons


Biography of a Wife deceived by a 'Husband' into a Bigamous marriage(s): Chapter 14. Three Weddings and a Funeral; One Divorce, Two Honemoons and Three Moneymoons

Main Characters:
1. Meera -The Legally Wedded Wife or Narrator in USA (Married by Civil Registered Marriage)
2. Veena - Yet another wife in India and Young widow (Married by Hindu Religious rites)
3. Balaji aka Krishna -The Bigamous Husband in USA (The Charming Con-Artist)
4. Roshan - Veena's Fatherless orphan from previous marriage with Madan
5. Madan -First husband of Veena, who died an unnatural death with unfinished business

6. Leena - First wife of Balaji in USA, compelled psychiatrist treatment to Balaji
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Date of Writing: 4 June 2010
Date of Editing: 4 June 2010
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Dr. Balaji aka Krishna is well known as greedy and selfish person in community. Multiple marriages for financial abuse is acquired tactic of Dr. Balaji. He is a trained con artist who converts economic domination in to exploitation and is rarely seen in friends and relatives therapy circles because it takes a back seat to physical, verbal or sexual abuse. Suffice it to say that economic domination can be more emotionally devastating to a woman.

Meera (Wife #3) Imagine a once vibrant woman who, when single, had a good corporate job, earned an excellent salary and had the respect of her colleagues at work. One day gets trapped in a bigamous marriage, signs the prenuptial agreement with the dreams of loving marriage and safe premarital assets. They get married, but little does she know that he is a expert liarconstantly hiding his income, expenses and using her income to capitalize his premarital assets. Joint account income needs complete transparency and honesty between the two partners. Despite of frequent requests, he never wants to share his expenses, take out cash from joint account, gains his stocks income which he claims as premarital, spends huge amount of money on kids and depriving Meera's kids all the time. He is squeezing her financially, physically, emotionally to live king's life and get the best of the world for his own kids. After two and half years of full salary deposition, his greed continued. One day, frustrated Meera stopped payments. He started threatening her to deposit her income to joint account to pay mortgage and bills. eventually, joint account hits the overdraft facility and bank starts calling home 3 times a day. Utility bills do not get paid. Water, phone got disconnected. Con artist lives in the same house, changed the password of internet to stop Meera's usage but claims the bills from Meera. She realized her exploitation is beyond her imagination which has ruined her excellent credit score due to big fat liar. Bigamous marriage did not save a single penny for her future during a marriage but started draining her premarital assets to pay lawyers bills in USA and India.

Veena (Wife #2) Balaji's greed and Veena's need. Dreams of coming to USA as a dependent wife, having late husband's insurance money to play for her dreams, elderly unemployed lady at widowed home who is not in good terms with her family and can be easily molded to suck her late husband's insurance money, not well educated to understands con artist's Karishma - what a fantastic opportunity of marriage for Balaji to abuse Veena. He married Veena, took dowry, did not spend a penny in luxurious wedding and abandoned her after marriage. She has ruined her life but Dr Balaji was blaming Veena as a "Pagal" woman. Her son deprived due to lack of money and education but Dr. Balaji enjoyed luxurious marriage at zero cost and gained her late husband's insurance, flew to USA with his status as "single" again to marry another woman.

Leena (Wife #1) Ex wife legally divorced could not discover joint assets and had to take lot of financial losses during divorce. Dr. Balaji took joint income and invested in his friend's company which Leena never could track down laundered joint income legally. After divorce, she was suing Dr Balaji for not paying child support per court order. Two biological kids from Dr. Balaji, living with her but no child support to take care for 5- 6 years. Highly educated Leena, had a good corporate job in the same company with Dr. Balaji when they were married. Dr Balaji abused his power and kicked her out of the job after his divorce. Loving and caring mother of two kids, who was struggling for a job, was needing child support to take care of the kids but often, an abuser gives the needy insufficient funds for meeting her needs to make her also suffered. Leena issued arrest warrant as he did not follow court orders to pay child support.

Dr. Balaji demonized Leena a lot in community and manipulated his kids to get full custody. Dad who never paid child support for his kids fought for getting child support from Leena and garnished Leena's income from employer. He was receiving regular check from her employer each month which Balaji was depositing in his personal account and kids expenses were charged to joint account of Meera-Balaji. What a plot to squeeze both Leena and Meera. How is a woman like her who thrives in an intellectual milieu going to fare when faced with economic exploitation by her ex husband?

How many marriages greedy Dr.Balaji will do to make woman suffer from economic abuse?

Friday, 4 June 2010

High Court Ahmedabad asks woman to breastfeed love child

High Court Ahmedabad asks woman to breastfeed love child
Jun 5, 2010
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/ahmedabad/HC-asks-woman-to-breastfeed-love-child/articleshow/6013191.cms

AHMEDABAD: The Gujarat High Court has ordered Ahmedabad Civil Hospital authorities to ensure that a woman breastfeeds her newborn girl, who was weaned away by her parents because this was a love child and they did not approve of the relationship.

When the court was informed that the parents had forced the separation of the mother and child, the court asked the hospital staff to take help of woman constables if the parents interfered.

Last year Sarita, a married Marwadi woman in Vadaj area of Ahmedabad eloped with a Marathi boy, Hitesh. Sarita’s parents filed a habeas corpus petition in the high court. She was brought to the court by cops on July 27 last year, but she refused to go with her parents. The parents claimed she was already married, but the court silenced them saying Sarita was not a minor and had expressed her intention to live with Hitesh.

The couple began living together and Sarita got pregnant. That’s when her family took her away. Sarita later lodged an FIR against Hitesh and his two friends for rape. Shocked, Hitesh approached the court to get the FIR quashed and explained how the girl preferred to stay with him instead of going with her parents last year.

Hitesh was in the meantime arrested by police and sent to the Sabarmati Central Jail in February. The high court immediately ordered release of the boy on bail and stayed the probe. The girl was called before the court to explain why she had complained against Hitesh even as he asserted that the unborn child was his and he was willing to stay with Sarita for the rest of his life.

But looking at the advanced stage of pregnancy, Sarita was ordered to stay with her parents, who shifted her to the Civil Hospital for delivery. The high court also ordered the hospital staff to take proper care in this case, and not to discharge her after delivery till further orders.

On May 10, a girl was born to Sarita, but as per the hospital’s report it was found the mother was not feeding the infant at the behest of her parents, though she was capable. The neonatology unit was looking after the baby. This led the court to ensure that the infant got right to her mother’s milk. The court asked Sarita to be present in court fo another hearing scheduled next week.

(Names have been changed to protect identities)