Petition to Conduct CBI Enquiry into Murder of Dr J A Mathan

Sunday, 31 October 2010

Asha Bhonsle's daughter-in-law seeks divorce for 'cruelty' (Action replay of Asha's story)

Asha's daughter-in-law seeks divorce for 'cruelty'
Nov 1, 2010
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/top-headlines/Ashas-daughter-in-law-seeks-divorce-for-cruelty/articleshow/6849280.cms
MUMBAI: Melody queen Asha Bhosle is 77 now. When she was still in her teens, she and her two children including son Hemant, then a toddler, were left penniless and homeless by husband Ganpat Bhosle who illtreated her.

Almost 60 years later, one of her daughters-in-law Sajidah aka Rama Bhosle, who is 58 now, says she is facing a similar situation. 

Sajidah moved the family court in Bandra alleging that her 61-year-old husband Hemant Bhosle has "ill-treated" her "since the inception" of their marriage in 1985. She wants a divorce from him on grounds of cruelty under the Hindu Marriage Act. "He humiliated and finally deserted me in 2003," says her petition. Sajidah has made no allegations against her mother-in-law though.

Sajidah retired as an airhostess from Air India last year. She had converted to Hinduism to marry Hemant. It was her first marriage and his second. Alleging that he left her to fend for herself on her meager pension, she is now seeking a monthly interim maintenance of Rs 5 lakh.

Gay rights laws are 'a danger to our freedoms': Bishops speak out after Christian couple barred from fostering children because of their views on homosexuality go to court in UK

Gay rights laws are 'a danger to our freedoms': Bishops speak out after Christian couple barred from fostering children because of their views on homosexuality go to court
31st October 2010
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1325311/Gay-rights-laws-danger-freedoms-Bishops-speak-Christian-couple-barred-fostering-children-views-homosexuality-court.html
Gay  rights laws are eroding Christianity and stifling free speech, Church of England bishops warned yesterday.
Senior clerics, including former Archbishop of Canterbury Lord Carey, spoke out ahead of a High Court ‘clash of rights’ hearing over whether Christians are fit to foster or adopt children.
The test case starting today involves a couple who say they have been barred from fostering because they refuse to give up their religious belief that homosexuality is unacceptable.
Test case: Owen and Eunice Johns refuse to compromise their Pentecostal beliefs

Supporters hope their legal challenge will set a precedent for the rights of Christians to foster children without compromising their faith.
But senior bishops fear that if the ruling goes against them, it could have devastating consequences for those with religious beliefs.
Either way, they believe the case will determine whether Christians can continue to express their beliefs in this country.
In an open letter, they warned that Labour’s equality laws put homosexual rights over those of others, ‘even though the Office for National Statistics has subsequently shown homosexuals to be just one in 66 of the population’.
Traditional values: Former Archbishop of Canterbury Lord Carey Of Clifton

The letter is signed by Lord Carey, the Bishop of Winchester Rt Rev Michael Scott-Joynt, the Bishop of Chester Rt Rev Peter Forster, and Rt Rev Michael Nazir-Ali, the former Bishop of Rochester.
They wrote: ‘The High Court is to be asked to rule on whether Christians are “fit people” to adopt or foster children – or whether they will be excluded, regardless of the needs of children, from doing so because of the requirements of homosexual rights.
‘Research clearly establishes that children flourish best in a family with both a mother and father in a committed relationship.
‘The supporters of homosexual rights cannot be allowed to suppress all disagreement or disapproval, and “coerce silence”.’
The couple in the High Court test case, Eunice and Owen Johns, said Derby City Council’s fostering panel rejected them as carers because they would never tell children a homosexual lifestyle was acceptable.
Mrs Johns said: ‘The council said: “Do you know, you would have to tell them that it’s OK to be homosexual?”
‘But I said I couldn’t do that because my Christian beliefs won’t let me. Morally, I couldn’t do that. Spiritually I couldn’t do that.’
The Pentecostal Christian couple from Derby, who have fostered almost 20 children, are not homophobic, according to the Christian Legal Centre, which has taken up their case.
But they are against sex before marriage and do not recognise as marriage civil partnerships between gay couples.
Their beliefs are at odds with Derby City Council’s equality policy, which was drawn up under the terms of the Sexual Orientation Act brought in by Labour.
The Christian Legal Centre, which campaigns for religious freedoms, said in a statement: ‘The case will decide whether the Johns will be able to foster without compromising their beliefs.
‘The implications are huge. It is no exaggeration to say that the future of Christian foster carers and adoptive parents hangs in the balance.
‘It may not be long before local authorities decide that Christians cannot look after some of the most vulnerable children in our society, simply because they disapprove of homosexuality.’
However Ben Summerskill, chief executive of gay rights charity Stonewall, said: ‘Too often in fostering cases nowadays it’s forgotten that it is the interests of a child, and not the prejudices of a parent, that matter.
‘Many Christian parents of gay children will be shocked at Mr and Mrs Johns’s views, which are more redolent of the 19th century than the 21st.’
The case is due to be heard in the High Court sitting at Nottingham Crown Court.

Thursday, 28 October 2010

Men’s Rights Organisations hail Supreme Court’s Landmark judgment against maintenance to live-in partners and say, “Men are not Economic Slaves”.

Save Indian Family Foundation
PRESS RELEASE
Subject: Men’s Rights Organisations hail Supreme Court’s Landmark judgment against maintenance to live-in partners and say, “Men are not Economic Slaves”.
On 21st October 2010, in a landmark judgment (see http://www.indiankanoon.org/doc/1521881/), a Supreme Court bench by Justice Markandey Katju and Justice T.S.Thakur ordered that just any woman in a live-in relationship cannot be equated with legal spouse and claim palimony.  The bench also excluded ‘keeps’, ‘one-night–stands’ from relationships “in the nature of marriage”.
Jayanth T.K, Coordinator SIFF, Bangalore has made a press statement:
·         In this era, where women equal to men in all walks of life, the concept of women demanding money from men to maintain themselves is completely absurd and unacceptable. Except physiological/ biological differences women are no different from men and certainly not be considered inferior.
·         The fact that today women (and men) are in live-in relationships or are casual sexual partners reflects the changed society where women have broken social paradigms that were once taboos. Indeed such women reflect an independent thinking mind. Neither can such relationships be equated with a marriage. Otherwise marriage loses its sanctity.
·         To provide ‘maintenance’ or ‘compensation’ money to girl friends, keeps, concubines, casual sexual partners, mistresses and that too indefinitely even after the end of the relationship amounts to dole. Such a practice would enslave men and make them free ATM machines while encouraging a society in which such women would be economic parasites who idle and squeeze out men for easy money. Neither society nor the law can encourage indolents and parasites. Everyone has to earn for the purpose of maintenance of him or herself.
·         A stage needs to be reached when maintenance should be completely eliminated and every partner encouraged earning their livelihood.
·         If a child is born out of these relationships, then the child’s proper upbringing is the shared responsibility of both the biological parents.
To driver home the point, consider the example of Ravi Kumar (name changed), aged 32, a software Engineer and a female colleague who shared an accommodation for last 6 months. They shared a live-in & casual sexual relationship. Neither wished enter into matrimony. Last week, they broke up. Will Ravi Kumar have to pay her maintenance/ compensation every month indefinitely/ for rest of his life?
Save Indian Family Foundation(SIFF) hails this Supreme Court judgment a landmark judgment, which would now correct many misinterpretations of the much abused and draconian Domestic Violence Act.
The landmark judgment delivered by the Hon’ble Judges is well researched and appropriate judgments of courts of United States of America are referred to.
Leading and respectable news media widely reported the display of an angry outburst by Indira Jaising the author of the draconian Domestic Violence Act and an Additional Solicitor General towards the Supreme Court bench consisting of Justice Markandey Katju and Justice T.S.Thakur. According to reports, her angry outburst was triggered when the Justice Markandey Katju reportedly said “So you are the author of the Domestic Violence Act”. Indira Jaising while objecting to the word “keep” used in the judgment, is reported to have used phrases like “I do not expected this from the Supreme Court in the 21st Century” and wondered whether the court “would have used similar words for men” and that it was “derogatory to women”. The Supreme Court bench in this landmark judgment laid down conditions for live-in relations to come in the ambit of the Domestic Violence Act and the bench stated that “one-night-stands, weekend relationships and keeps would not qualify as domestic relationships”.
Instead of haranguing the Judge on the language used, Indiara Jaising will do well to reflect on her own language in authoring the ill-drafted, controversial and draconian Domestic Violence Act that has been responsible for the detention, humiliation and economic ruin of many innocent families due to its misuse by unscrupulous wives.
The world has changed and women are equal to men in all respects. There are certain facts of life - “keeps”, “prostitutes”, “live-in partners” have always been there and always will. There is nothing “gender biased” in this. How the word “keep” is derogatory and that too only to women is indeed surprising. The use of the word only reflects a reality.
By clarifying the phrase “in the nature of marriage” and laying down parameters for this, the Supreme Court Bench effectively did the work that Indira Jaising should have done in the first place. Effectively therefore, the Supreme Court has explained the Domestic Violence Act to its own author! Instead of exhibiting such intemperate behavior Indira Jaising would have done well to have THANKED the bench for this.
Criticizing a Supreme Court Judge in this manner is a condemned and contemptible act particularly due to the fact that it comes from an Additional Solicitor General. One wonders why Indira Jaising should not be tried for Contempt of Court and made an example of. Or is it within the ambit of the official powers of the Solicitor General’s office to make such criticisms?
It’s ironical that the author of an act that violates basic Human Rights represents India in U.N and International forums! By displaying such intemperate behavior, Indira Jaising has done Indian women a disservice and behaved in a manner derogatory to Indian women. The very credibility of Indira Jaising is questionable. Surely, there is no shortage of competent women to represent India?
Indira Jaising should be immediately withdrawn from representing India and also dismissed from the post of Additional Solicitor General in the interests of upholding the dignity of the court and Indian women. Or at the very least, given the fact that she is in the evening of her life (being about 70 years old) and belongs to a bygone era, giving her a graceful, face-saving discharge may be an option.


Jayanth T.K
Coordinator (Bangalore)
Save Indian Family Foundation

Mom who threw baby daughter in Mumbai (while keeping twin boy) booked for murder!

Mom who threw baby booked for murder
Oct 28, 2010
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/mumbai/Mom-who-threw-baby-booked-for-murder/articleshow/6825205.cms
MUMBAI: An hour after the police pressed murder charges against Deepika Parmar (26), accused of flinging her girl child to death from a bathroom window in KEM Hospital, Deepika looked indifferent to the scores of prying eyes as she sat in the corridor of the city's busiest hospital guarded by a woman constable. Earlier, she had only been charged with abandoning a baby in an infectious environment.

Bhoiwada police officials on Wednesday confirmed that she has been booked for murder. The intention behind the act, though, is still hazy. "Her statement says that she was fed up of seeing her child suffer so much," said Vikram Patil, senior inspector of Bhoiwada police station. He said that the possibility of female infanticide was still being probed though it "seemed unlikely".

Deepika's distraught father-in-law Chandulal said financial hardship could have driven her to throw the baby and not any dislike for a girl child. "We wanted a girl as much as a boy. The baby was like our ghar ka lakshmi ," he said. minutes after finishing the final rites of his grandchild. He recollected how He said that the couple had a girl child about five years, but she succumbed to a congenital heart defect within four days of birth. " She had a hole in her heart. Though her chances of survival were bleak, we admitted her to the Nair Hospital and did everything possible to save her," he said. The Parmars also had a boy a few years back but he too did not survive for more than a day.

Interestingly, after lot of probing, Chandulal did admit that Deepika suffered from bouts of 'unexplained anger' at times. "We never took it seriously as there was nothing unusual," he said. as there was nothing unusual," he said. His daughter-in-law apparently did not show any signs of depression or change in behaviour during pregnancy or post delivery. But, questions on why she could have possibly done it drew blank answers. "We haven't spoken much after the incident. She has been crying constantly and has refused to eat anything since yesterday," he said. Nurses too said Deepika was not breastfeeding the boy child as she was not lactating. "She also has a sleep disorder," a nurse said

The family is also worried about the financial burden. "So far, we have borrowed more than Rs 1.5 lakh from our friends and neighbours. We were planning to mortgage our house in Dahisar to fund the treatment of my two grandchildren," he said. The family had spent around Rs 10,000 per day to treat the premature twins in a private nursing home in Borivli after their breathing problems persisted.

Deepika's husband Manish was in the dark about why she committed the act. A family member said that Manish was so scared of the police and the ensuing legal action on his wife that he had run away to Surat on Tuesday night. "He came back only when the police threatened to arrest his parents," a relative said

A team of psychiatrists from the hospital who evaluated Deepika remained dissatisfied with her answers. "She drew a blank whenever we questioned her about the incident and insisted that she remembered nothing about throwing any baby," said head of psychological medicine Dr Shubhangi Parkar.

Her neighbours at Shetty Chawl in Dahisar (east) said that the Parmars did not socialize much. "They were blessed with twins after five long years," said Sunanda Shetty, owner of Shetty Chawl, where the couple lives.

Wednesday, 27 October 2010

‘Men are not free ATM machines’: DV Act deals with live-ins and keeps rather than Spouses!

‘Men are not free ATM machines’

Several Bangaloreans welcome the SC judgment against maintenance for women in live-in relationships, say it’s high time government amended the Domestic Violence Act
http://www.bangaloremirror.com/index.aspx?Page=article&sectname=News%20-%20City&sectid=10&contentid=2010102820101028051852408b281ef08

October 28, 2010
Men’s rights groups in the city have welcomed the recent supreme court judgment that women in live-in relationships cannot demand maintenance from their male partners. They have also come out against additional solicitor general Indira Jaisingh who has criticised the judgment.


Kumar V Jahgirdar, a social activist fighting for gender-neutral laws and family harmony, said, “I welcome the supreme court judgment. The concept of women demanding money from men to maintain their lifestyles is completely unacceptable in this era. Men are not economic slaves that they have to keep giving money and gifts every month to concubines and part-time lovers for decades or their whole life even after the end of the relationship.”

Virag Dhulia, liaison officer (India) for the National Coalition for Men (NCFM), said, “It is outrageous that Indira Jaisingh argues in a non-government case and demands that a man pays Rs 500 every month to one of his sexual partners for many decades in future just like a free ATM machine. Given a chance, she can also push courts to order men to pay maintenance to their female colleagues at work, citing some imaginary office romance. We are heading towards a society where women are independent and men are no longer treated as free ATM machines.”

“Today, sexual relationships between men and women are mostly mutual. Lawmakers must put an end to this practice of maintenance, alimony and compensation to women just due to some mutual sexual or emotional relationships for short or long periods of time,” says Jahgirdar.

Women welcome judgment
Some women have welcomed the supreme court judgment which went against the Domestic Violence Act 2005. Roshni Mathan Pereira, family counsellor and mediator at Children’s Rights Initiative For Shared Parenting (CRISP), said, “The Domestic Violence Act is very biased. It does not include the role of husbands and children within the framework of a family. It reads like a set of rules on how to break a marriage. Jaisingh, who is one of the architects of the Act, does not look into the importance and role of the women in the family.

“The Act deals with jargon like concubine and is more worried about such women than the wife. It is not pro-family. The act has become a magic wand in the hands of dominatrix wives who misuse it to break their families because of their own intolerance and manipulations leading to alternative character roles like live-ins, keeps, concubines and spouse thieves. 
Though the supreme court has said it is not for them to legislate or amend the law, the government should revamp the act as soon as possible.”


Letter to Rajya Sabha
The Save Indian Family Foundation has also come out against the Act. In a letter to the Rajya Sabha secretariat, it has called for its amendment, saying, “Although the name of the act is Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, almost all the cases are filed only by wives or daughters-in-law. The foundation has called for making the Act ‘gender neutral’, rewriting sections and punishing false complainants.

Tuesday, 26 October 2010

Natascha Kampusch's mother accused of masterminding her kidnap

Natascha Kampusch's mother accused of masterminding her kidnap
http://www.smh.com.au/news/world/natascha-kampuschs-mother-accused-of-masterminding-her-kidnap/2008/05/16/1210765107182.html


The mother of Austrian Natascha Kampusch, who was held in a dungeon for more than eight years before escaping, has been accused of masterminding her ordeal.

Retired judge Martin Wabl told the State Court in Graz, Austria, that Ms Kampusch's mother Brigitte Sirny hatched the plot with Wolfgang Priklopil, the Daily Mail reported.

Priklopil held Ms Kampusch captive and committed suicide hours after she escaped in 2006.

Mr Wabl said Mrs Sirny had wanted to cover up the sexual abuse of her daughter when she was ten.

He made similar allegations after Ms Kampusch's disappearance in 1998 but was fined for defamation, the paper said. He had now returned to court to have his criminal record erased.

Witnesses told the court Mrs Sirny had known Priklopil well with one saying she often hit her daughter.

Neighbour Anneliese Glaser, who also worked at a delicatessen owned by Mrs Sirny, said Mrs Sirny had little time for her daughter, the paper said.

"I never saw her abuse the child but she would come to me often and the red fingerprints of Sirny would be clearly visible in her face where she hit her," she told the court.

"When Natascha resurfaced in 2006, I saw the picture of Priklopil and I recognised him instantly. He was at her shop with another man when I was there repairing the electrics."

Ms Kampusch disappeared on her way to school in March 1998.

Shortly after her disappearance, a Vienna newspaper published photographs found in Mrs Sirny's flat that showed Ms Kampusch wearing lipstick and riding boots, brandishing a whip and showing her private parts.

Mrs Sirny dismissed the photographs as "harmless horseplay", although a psychiatrist described them as "highly sexually charged and taken for the sexual delectation of the person behind the camera" , the paper said.

No charges were ever brought against Mrs Sirny.

Ms Kampusch testified for 30 minutes in a closed courtroom due to the sexual nature of the evidence. She refused to answer questions from reporters outside the court, the paper said.

Judge Juergen Schweiger has said she was not sexually abused as a child. He will deliver a written verdict in a fortnight, the paper said.

3096 days of Captivity in Dungeon: Natascha Kampusch: Inside the head of my torturer

Natascha Kampusch: Inside the head of my torturer
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2010/sep/11/natascha-kampusch-interview
Four years ago, Natascha Kampusch shocked the world when, after being held captive for 3,096 days, she showed empathy with her kidnapper. It was the only way she could have escaped, she says
11 September 2010
'I find it natural that you would adapt yourself to identify with your kidnapper.'


It is a freezing late-August afternoon in a not particularly Mozartian part of Vienna. Natascha Kampusch stands before me in her agent's office, shaking my hand. To her left is her agent, Wolfgang Brunner, to her right her translator, Jill Kreuer. Her mouth is very firmly shut, her lips squeezed hard together. I notice a small, discoloured patch of skin on her hand, a wound from a beating that will never completely heal.

"Thank you for meeting me," I say.

She nods, still keeping her mouth tightly closed.

Twelve years ago, when Natascha was 10, she was walking to school (it was the very first occasion her mother had allowed her to walk alone) when she noticed a man standing by a delivery van. He looked neat, conservative. As she passed, he grabbed her and threw her in.

Eight years later, in August 2006, Natascha miraculously reappeared, running terrified through the Vienna suburbs, pale and gaunt, like a beautiful child from a Brothers' Grimm fairytale, having escaped the clutches of the monster. An astonished, infatuated public awaited her first words. They turned out to be complicated and unsettling and not fairytale-like at all.

"I mourn for him," she said of her kidnapper Wolfgang Priklopil.

The admiration turned to disgust and confusion and she began getting hate mail.

And so she has now written a memoir, 3,096 Days, explaining everything. It is a brilliantly insightful dissection of her years in captivity. She's agreed to talk to me about it. But, unnervingly, her mouth is still tightly closed. I glance anxiously at it. Have I flown to Vienna to meet a woman who is psychologically incapable of speaking? And then, to my relief, she says, "Hello."

"Do you find this hard?" I ask her.

"It's difficult," she says.

"Then why do you do it?"

"I want to reclaim the interpretation of my own story," she says.

Natascha Kampusch was born in a council estate on the edge of Vienna. "I was used to dealing with disturbed people," she says. "There were people in the neighbourhood who were alcoholics, some were mentally disturbed. They liked to talk about conspiracy theories. They had failed at life."
Father Ludwig Koch

Her divorced parents would slap and insult her. By the age of 10 she was a compulsive eater, depressed and lonely. In fact, her last moments of freedom were spent fantasising about suicide. She would throw herself in front of a car and then her mother would be sorry. That was what she was daydreaming about as she walked in the direction of the man standing by the delivery van.

"How do your parents feel about the memoir?" I ask her. "You're quite honest about their cruelty."

There's a small pause. "They haven't read it yet," she says. Still, she adds, she hopes 3,096 Days will dispel the impression people have "that my mother was a very brutal person and that I had a better time of it in the dungeon." However hard her mother was, she was nothing like Priklopil.

Her first words to her kidnapper as she lay in the van: "What size shoes do you wear?"

"What was his shoe size?" she says. "How old was he? Was he married with children? Why didn't he have children? I fired these questions at him."

"Why?" I ask.

"I knew from watching Aktenzeichen XY… ungelöst [Austria's version of Crimewatch] that you must get as much information about a criminal as possible." She smiles, remembering her naivety with fondness.

He drove her to his home in a prosperous suburb called Strasshof and carried her into a tiny cellar room he'd evidently spent a long time preparing. It was beneath a trapdoor in the garage, down some stairs, through a hollowed-out concrete wall hidden on the other side of a small metal hatch concealed behind a cupboard. It was so clandestine and fortified, it took an hour to get inside. It was five by five metres, bare, soundproofed, windowless and filled with the constant irritating rattle of a plastic ventilator fan.

He made to take away her schoolbag. When she asked if she could hold onto it, Priklopil's response was startling. "You could have hidden a transmitter," he said, "and you could use it to call for help."

It was a strange and paranoid statement – 10-year-olds tend not to hide transmitters in their schoolbags. But still, she says, "I was used to grown-ups doing and saying strange things I didn't understand."

She asked him to tuck her in, read her a story and give her a goodnight kiss. All of which he cheerfully did.

In the beginning, their relationship was relatively uncomplicated. Or as uncomplicated as things can be when one half of the duo is locked in a dungeon and the other has to keep the whole convoluted setup a secret from the outside world, including his mother and his best friend, Ernst Holzapfel, both of whom regularly visited the house. He brought her fancy croissants and expensive toys, like train sets. As a coping mechanism, she says, she regressed psychologically to the age of a dependent toddler.

But then things started to get odder. His gifts to her became less thoughtful. "He began giving me presents like mouthwash and scotch tape," she says. "Still, I was very happy to get those presents. I was happy to get any present, even if it was orange juice."

He told her he was an Egyptian god and she decided that the easiest thing to do would be to go along with it.

"In situations when I was being bathed," she says, "I pictured myself being at a spa. When he gave me something to eat, I imagined him as a gentleman, that he was doing all this for me to be gentlemanly. Serving me." She pauses. "I thought it was very humiliating to be in that situation."

By her early-teenage years, she found being a compliant character in his psychotic delusions more difficult, so began fighting back with small acts of rebellion. She adamantly refused, for instance, to call him "Maestro". It was a weirdness too far.

"I thought it was ridiculous and silly," she says. "But I recognised similar behaviour from preschool. One child would say, 'I'm the ruler. I'm the king.' Or, 'I'm a princess. You have to listen to me, you have to do as I say.' This was a similar kind of megalomania."

And so now it was Priklopil's turn to adapt to a new situation. His captive was no longer a docile plaything. Unfortunately, he decided the solution was to break her completely and then remould her.

"He wanted to show more and more that he was stronger than I was, that I was someone who had to obey without question."

He began persistently and violently beating her up, denying her food, keeping her in darkness for long stretches, and on and on. He constructed an intercom so he could lie awake all night yelling insults at her from his bedroom upstairs. He had trained as an engineer at Siemens, hence his technical abilities.

"When we ate together, he always allowed himself a much bigger portion," she says. "I saw that I had no rights. Also, he began to see me as a person who could do a lot of hard manual labour."

He started bringing her upstairs to clean his house. She had to do this half naked, her gaze lowered. She was only allowed to speak when spoken to, or he'd beat her up. She writes in 3,096 Days that the one thing she won't discuss is the sexual abuse, but that it was minor, and even when he began manacling her to his bed all he wanted to do was cuddle.

She puts her survival down to a moment that occurred when she was 12. There being no sane, solid adults in her life, she decided to become her own adult. Her 18-year-old self appeared to her in a vivid vision. She told her, "I will get you out of here, I promise you. Right now you are too small. But when you turn 18 I will overpower the kidnapper and free you from your prison."

The beatings continued over the next six years. Sometimes the only way to avert them was to repeatedly, almost mockingly, punch herself in the face, until he begged her to stop. There were suicide attempts, too. She tried to slit her wrists with a knitting needle when she was 14. But there were also moments of warmth. Sometimes he would apologise to her, buy her gifts, tell her his dreams of their life together.

"I think he really trusted me," she says. "He was able to communicate with me, to act out his illness. I think he wanted to create his own little perfect world with a person who could be there just for him."

His vision was for her to be a kind of beautiful Aryan servant and adoring companion. He told her the Jews were responsible for 9/11, he dyed her hair blonde and – after convincing her that any escape attempt would mean death for her and him and scores of bystanders – he took her skiing. The Aryan girl skiing down a hill at his side, "like Leni Riefenstahl had been the director of the film", she laughs.

In fact, he took her on 13 day trips in all, to a chemist, a hardware store, but mostly to empty rental flats he was renovating for his friend, Ernst Holzapfel. He made her do the manual work. She was too scared to run away, to say anything to the various strangers she encountered – the chemist, the policeman who stopped the car at a roadblock.

Then she turned 18. And when she did she looked at him and said, "You have brought a situation upon us in which only one of us can make it through alive. I really am grateful to you for not killing me and for taking such good care of me. That is very nice of you. But you can't force me to stay with you. I am my own person with my own needs. This situation must come to an end."

She closed her eyes expecting a beating, but it didn't come. Instead, she opened them to see him looking sad, defeated.

"I think he understood that I was at the end of my strength," she says. "He had brought me to the brink, I had no energy left, but in a way that empowered me. He had nothing to counter it with."

And then, a few weeks later, he left her alone in the garden for a moment while he took a telephone call, and she just walked out of the gate.

Then she started running, frantically. She pleaded with passers-by to help her, but they ignored her. Finally she found someone who was willing to call the police.

"Do you think he'd resigned himself to you escaping?" I ask.

"It's possible he saw it coming," she says. "It's possible he wished it would happen."

Of course it must have all become a terrible burden for him: the stress of keeping a secret slave. He went to his friend Ernst Holzapfel. They drove around Vienna for three hours and he confessed everything. "I am a kidnapper and a rapist," he told him.

And then Holzapfel let him out of the car and Priklopil lay down on some railway tracks, until a train ran over his head.

At first Natascha was inundated with offers of help, albeit sometimes odd ones: "You could live with me and help with the housework. I'm offering board, wages and lodging. Although I'm married, I'm sure we'll find an arrangement," wrote one.

But the offers stopped, she says, when she refused to play the role of a victim – a weak girl in need of help – and instead tried to explain to interviewers the nuances of their relationship. That wasn't the story people wanted to hear, so they dismissed her as suffering from Stockholm Syndrome – a label intended, she says, to deny her the ability to judge her own experiences.

"I find it very natural that you would adapt yourself to identify with your kidnapper," she says. "Especially if you spend a great deal of time with that person. It's about empathy, communication. Looking for normality within the framework of a crime is not a syndrome. It is a survival strategy." She pauses. "But people get annoyed when I say this. Some say I should be locked up again, that it isn't really special to have been locked up like that, that I liked it, that it was good for me."

Natascha has bought the Strasshof house to prevent it from becoming a shrine for crazy fans. She says she finds her sort of fame "bothersome and disturbing. I knew, when I was in the dungeon, that the story would make me famous, but I thought it would be a more positive experience, like winning the Olympics. You're in the media once, people admire you, and then it's over and done with. I never thought I'd meet so many unpleasantly curious people who refuse to keep their distance from me, who are uneducated. I have many personal complexes as well, so being such a well-recognised figure just adds to that."

"What kind of complexes?" I ask.

"Insecurities. Why are people staring at me so strangely and treating me so weirdly? And then I remember, oh yeah. People recognise me."

For a while she, unexpectedly, became a TV chatshow host. "I always wanted to interview people," she says. "When I was imprisoned, I listened to the radio and I admired the interviewers." She pauses and smiles. "And I have certainly learned how to engage with people one on one. I was forced to listen to him, which I think was very positive, because a lot of people my age are not good at listening."

"It must have been a good lesson in human nature," I say. "So are you going to be a journalist?"

"A psychologist," she replies. "Although before I do that I would like to learn two trades: goldsmith and shoemaker."

"Everything a girl wants," says her agent from across the table.

I ask if she gets flashbacks. She shrugs. "I don't forget it, but right now it's not important. I want to live in the now. But sometimes, yes, I have flashbacks."

"What brings them on?"

"When I've been troubled by a situation where somebody acts in a similar way. Like in my private life. I see men put women down and act possessively towards them. I get flashbacks when people try to make me eat something when I'm not hungry. In the dungeon, food was withheld from me, but when they do the opposite it robs me of my dignity."

Does she tell them, "You're acting like the kidnapper"?

"Sometimes," she says.

Does that make them back away?

"Yes," she smiles.

And now there's the memoir. Did trying to get inside his head help her psychologically?

"I like to do it very much," she replies. "In fact, I probably like to do it too much, which is why I've gone back to a therapist. I like to put myself in people's shoes and try to feel what they feel. For instance, if I'm in love with someone, I constantly think, 'Why did he say it that way? Did he mean it that way? What happened in his childhood? Why is he acting that way?'"

"But, of course, in your kidnapper's case, you're trying to get inside a head that's completely jumbled and disordered," I say.

"But he trusted me. He was able to open himself up to me and show me his ideas and visions, even though they were sick visions and ideas."

She pauses. "I don't want to engage in talk-show psychology, but I think it all happened because he was too conservative on the outside, too well-adjusted and conformist, and I think that's why he committed the crime. He had this border between what was permitted by society and what his personal desires were, and he was unable to reconcile the two."

And then – tired of talking about it all – she plays everyone in the room a song on her iPhone and sprays some of her new perfume in the air.

Bible References: Divination and Necromancy, the Prohibited Black magic arts

Necromancy is a special mode of divination by the evocation of the dead.
http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/10735a.htm
Necromancy in the Bible
In the Bible necromancy is mentioned chiefly in order to forbid it or to reprove those who have recourse to it. 

The Hebrew term 'ôbôth (sing., 'ôbh) denotes primarily the spirits of the dead, or "pythons", as the Vulgate calls them (Deuteronomy 18:11; Isaiah 19:3), who were consulted in order to learn the future (Deuteronomy 18:10, 11; 1 Samuel 28:8), and gave their answers through certain persons in whom they resided (Leviticus 20:27; 1 Samuel 28:7), but is also applied to the persons themselves who were supposed to foretell events under the guidance of these "divining" or "pythonic" spirits (Leviticus 20:6; 1 Samuel 28:3, 9; Isaiah 19:3).


The term yidde 'onim (from yada, "to know"), which is also used, but always in conjunction with 'obôth, refers either to knowing spirits and persons through whom they spoke, or to spirits who were known and familiar to the wizards. 

The term 'obh signifies both "a diviner" and "a leathern bag for holding water" (Job — xxxii, 19 — uses it in the latter sense), but scholars are not agreed whether we have two disparate words, or whether it is the same word with two related meanings. 

Many maintain that it is the same in both instances as the diviner was supposed to be the recipient and the container of the spirit. The Septuagint translates 'obôth, as diviners, by "ventriloquists" (eggastrimthouoi), either because the translators thought that the diviner's alleged communication with the spirit was but a deception, or rather because of the belief common in antiquity that ventriloquism was not a natural faculty, but due to the presence of a spirit. 

Perhaps, also, the two meanings may be connected on account of the peculiarity of the voice of the ventriloquist, which was weak and indistinct, as if it came from a cavity. Isaias (8:19) says that necromancers "mutter" and makes the following prediction concerning Jerusalem: "Thou shalt speak out of the earth, and thy speech shall be heard out of the ground, and thy voice shall be from the earth like that of the python and out of the ground thy speech shall mutter" (xxix, 4). 

Profane authors also attribute a distinctive sound to the voice of the spirits or shades, although they do not agree in characterizing it. Homer (Iliad, XXIII, 101; Od., XXIV, 5, 9) uses the verb trizein, and Statius (Thebais, VII, 770) stridere, both of which mean "to utter a shrill cry"; Horace qualifies their voice as triste et acutum (Sat., I, viii, 40); Virgil speaks of their vox exigua (Æneid, VI, 492) and of the gemitus lacrymabilis which is heard from the grave (op. cit., III, 39); and in a similar way Shakespeare says that "the sheeted dead did squeak and gibber in the Roman streets" (Hamlet, I, i).

The Mosaic Law forbids necromancy (Leviticus 19:31; 20:6), declares that to seek the truth from the dead is abhorred by God (Deuteronomy 18:11, 12), and even makes it punishable by death (Leviticus 20:27; cf. 1 Samuel 28:9). 

Nevertheless, owing especially to the contact of the Hebrews with pagan nations, we find it practised in the time of Saul (1 Samuel 28:7, 9), of Isaias, who strongly reproves the Hebrews on this ground (8:19; 19:3; 29:4, etc.), and of Manasses (2 Kings 21:6; 2 Chronicles 33:6). 

Picture: The witch of Endor and Saul 


The best known case of necromancy in the Bible is the evocation of the soul of Samuel at Endor (1 Samuel 28). King Saul was at war with the Philistines, whose army had gathered near that of Israel. He "was afraid and his heart was very much dismayed. And he consulted the Lord, and he answered him not, neither by dreams, nor by priests, nor by prophets" (5, 6). Then he went to Endor, to a woman who had "a divining spirit", and persuaded her to call the soul of Samuel. The woman alone saw the prophet, and Saul recognized him from the description she gave of him. But Saul himself spoke and heard the prediction that, as the Lord had abandoned him on account of his disobedience, he would be defeated and killed.

Monday, 25 October 2010

Baby killed after family of 12 'fleeing the devil' jumped from second floor balcony

Baby killed after family of 12 'fleeing the devil' jumped from second floor balcony
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1323509/Family-jumped-second-floor-fleeing-devil.html?ito=feeds-newsxml
25th October 2010

A baby died when family of 12 leaped from their second floor balcony in France claiming they were fleeing the devil yesterday morning.
Eight more people were injured, some seriously, in the bizarre tragedy when they jumped 20ft in to a car park in Paris suburb of La Verriere.
The incident occurred when when a wife woke to see her husband moving about naked in the room, police said.
Baby: Twelve people in Paris suburb jumped from their second-floor balcony to escape 'the devil' - and one infant died in the fall

She began screaming 'it's the devil! it's the devil!', and the man ran into the other room where 11 others adults and children watching television.
One woman grabbed a knife and stabbed the man before other family members pushed him out through the front door.
When the man forced his way back in, they all began screamed in terror and leapt from the balcony screaming 'Jesus! Jesus!'  
The naked man also leapt from the balcony after them, detectives said.
A four-month old baby died in his mother's arms, while a two-year-old was critically injured.
Police said they had found no evidence of hallucinogenic drugs being used or any signs of unusual religious rituals.

Versailles assistant prosecutor Odile Faivre said: 'The incident happened in the early hours of Sunday when a group of 11 people were watching television in an apartment.
'A wife in the next room saw her husband moving around naked and began screaming that he was the devil.
'In the confusion following this apparent case of mistaken identity, the naked man's sister-in-law stabbed him in the hand and he was ejected through the front door of the flat.
'When he attempted to get back in, panic erupted and the other occupants of the flat fled by jumping out of the window.
'A baby died and seven of those who jumped were taken to hospital, some with multiple injuries.
'A number of points surrounding this incident remain to be cleared up.'
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Deuteronomy 18:9-12 
When thou art come into the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee, thou shalt not learn to do after the abominations of those nations. There shall not be found among you any one that maketh his son or his daughter to pass through the fire, or that useth divination, or an observer of times, or an enchanter, or a witch, Or a charmer, or a consulter with familiar spirits, or a wizard, or a necromancer. For all that do these things are an abomination unto the Lord: and because of these abominations the Lord thy God doth drive them out from before thee.

Cuckolded Robert Mugabe's despised wife had an affair with his top banker

Robert Mugabe's despised wife had an affair with his top banker
25th October 2010
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1323406/Robert-Mugabes-wife-Grace-affair-banker.html
The wife of Robert Mugabe has been having a secret affair with one of her husband’s best friends, it was claimed yesterday.
Grace Mugabe – who is 41 years younger than Zimbabwe’s 86-year-old president – has spent the past five years cuckolding him with Gideon Gono, head of the country’s central bank.

The couple would meet as often as three times a month either at her dairy farm or in expensive hotels in neighbouring South Africa.
Betrayal: Robert Mugabe's wife, Grace, has been having an affair with the head of Zimbabwe's central bank, Gideon Gono for the past five years

Mugabe finally found out about the affair in July when his sister Sabina revealed the scandal on her deathbed,
it was reported.
Since then his most-trusted bodyguard Cain Chademana – who is said to have told the furious president that he knew of the affair but thought it best to keep quiet – has lost his life amid suspicions that he was poisoned.


Gono, 50, is now said to fear for his safety. ‘Once he (Mugabe) hears something like that, I think someone will go to meet God,’ said one Zimbabwean intelligence official.
It is not the first time Mrs Mugabe, who is widely reviled inside Zimbabwe for her lavish tastes and expensive shopping sprees, has conducted affairs behind her husband’s back.
Secret trysts: Gono , 50, is said to fear for his safety after his affair with Robert Mugabe's wife Grace was exposed

One former lover, Peter Pamire, died in a mysterious car accident. Another, James Makamba, fled the country.
Gono has known Mrs Mugabe, who married the president in 1996, for at least 15 years and they are partners in a number of business enterprises.
He is a pillar of the Zanu PF party that has held on to power in Zimbabwe since its 1980 independence from Britain.
As one of Mugabe’s most trusted friends, he has served since 2003 as head of the Reserve Bank of Zimbabwe – a period that saw the country’s currency suffer hyperinflation of more than a billion per cent a year.
While many of Zimbabwe’s desperately poor people struggle to find enough food to eat, Gono lives in a 47-bedroom mansion with swimming pool, gym and its own mini theatre.
Yesterday a source close to the banker confirmed that he and the first lady were lovers and claimed they had planned a life together after Mugabe’s death.
The senior official in Gono’s office told South Africa’s Sunday Times newspaper: ‘Mugabe trusted Gono. He even thought our boss was taking care of the first lady, keeping a protective eye on her so that she could not again be adulterous.’
Mugabe’s relationship with Grace, his former secretary, is itself founded on infidelity.


Two of their three children were born when Mugabe was still married to his popular first wife, Sally, who was battling a kidney disease from which she died in 1992.

Saturday, 23 October 2010

Twilight star Robert Pattinson is related to Vlad the Impaler (blood-thirsty Romanian ruler who inspired Vampire Dracula legend)

Is Twilight star Robert Pattinson related to Vlad the Impaler?

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-1289301/Twilight-star-Robert-Pattinson-related-Vlad-Impaler.html
For the legions of fans who have swooned over his pale skin and ghostly pallor, it might not come as such a surprise:
Robert Pattinson, star of the wildly successful teen bloodsucker series Twilight, is related to a real-life vampire.
OK, that’s stretching it a bit far, but after trawling through thousands of records, genealogists at Ancestry.co.uk have concluded that the 24- year-old actor is a distant relative of 15th-century Romanian ruler Vlad III — aka Vlad the Impaler.
Spot the resemblance? Robert Pattinson (seen above as Edward Cullen in Twilight) is a distant relative of Vlad the Impaler (below)
Vlad is thought to be the inspiration for Bram Stoker’s novel Dracula, which started the whole vampire phenomenon in 1897.

Fast-forward 113 years and Twilight has become one of the most successful franchises on the planet, due in no small part to Pattinson’s portrayal of Edward Cullen, a chivalrous vampire who falls in love with a human girl.

Fortunately, that’s where the similarities end, unless the British actor secretly executes his enemies by thrusting wooden stakes through their bodies, which was Vlad’s favourite past-time in the 15th century.
Legend has it that he also liked to skin the feet of rebels, coat them in salt and let goats lick it off.
‘Without any myth or magic, we find vampires and royalty lurking in Pattinson’s life — making his story just as supernatural as the one he’s playing on screen,’ says genealogist Anastasia Tyler.

The researchers also discovered that Prince Harry and Prince William are Pattinson’s distant cousins on Prince Charles’s side, through a Yorkshire family called the Pickerings in the 1500s. Of course, that means that Vlad the Impaler is also their distant relative.
Is it time to start putting garlic in the State banquets?

Domestic Violence Act being misused: CRISP, SIFF

Domestic Violence Act being misused
http://ibnlive.in.com/generalnewsfeed/news/domestic-violence-act-being-misused/441992.html
Oct 24,2010
Bangalore, Oct 23 (PTI): Several members of the Children's Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP) and Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF) staged a demonstration in the city today to protest `misuse' of the Domestic Violence Act. The protestors, who carried banners and shouted slogans, alleged that the act favoured women and was biased against men and it was being misused by women on several occasions Members of the NGOs also highlighted the 'harassment' meted out to husbands from their wives as well as the abuse of elders and senior citizens and violation of child rights and demanded for amendment to the act. "Ever since the act came into effect from 2006,the problem of misuse is rapidly increasing, especially in cities. It is a tool being misused by women and used to seek revenge against their spouses" CRISP founder Kumar Jahgirdar said.
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Protest against misuse of Domestic Violence Act
23 Oct 2010
http://expressbuzz.com/cities/bangalore/protest-against-misuse-of-domestic-violence-act/217391.html
BANGALORE: Two non-governmental organisations — Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF) and Children Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP) — will hold a protest in the city against the misuse of the Domestic Violence Act on Saturday.
Founder of CRISP Kumar Jahgirdar, who was earlier married to Chetana Kumble, who is now married to cricketer Anil Kumble, said the Act violated human rights.
“The Act is a tool misused by the cosmopolitan and misguided wives who want to avenge themselves on their husbands and in-laws if their demands are not fulfilled,” said Jahgirdar.
“We decided to hold a protest in Bangalore demanding amendment of the Act.”
In a press release, SIFF has said it demanded that maintenance laws be separated from the domestic violence laws and that maintenance be granted based on the length of marriage and must be gender neutral.
Recently, the High Court ruled that female members of the husband’s family cannot be made party in a complaint under the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005.
The court had held that the Act, which was meant to protecting women, could not be used against women.

Extracts of News-9 Interview with Roshni Mathan: Debate about Cruelty as a Ground for Divorce (Too much Sex as Cruelty)

Extracts of News-9 Interview with Roshni Mathan: Debate about Cruelty as a Ground for Divorce (Too much Sex as Cruelty)


“Unlike vitamins, there are no daily minimum requirements,” 

Fewer than 10 times a year is considered a sexless marriage, having sex once or twice a week is considered average. But, there is no definition for too much Sex.

1Cor 7:3-4  The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.

1Cor 7:5 Do not refuse one another, unless perhaps it is just for a time and by mutual consent...





See entire TV programme on youtube: 


Picture: Vivek Deveshwar (SIFF member), Roshni Mathan (CRISP counsellor), Sakshi (TV-9 anchor),  Advocate S Srivinas after TV-9 Programme debate 


News-9 Television conducted a debate about Too much Sex as a ground for Cruelty in a Marriage.
Cruelty as a Ground for Divorce is applicable under the following sections:



Section 13 of The Hindu Marriage Act, 1955, provides for dissolution of a Hindu marriage by a decree of divorce on 13 grounds. One of them is cruelty.

Section 27 of The Special Marriage Act, 1954, provides for 12 grounds for divorce. One of them is cruelty.

Section 2 of The Dissolution of Muslim Marriages Act, 1939, provides for 8 grounds on which a woman married under the Muslim law is entitled to obtain a decree for dissolution of her Marriage. One of them is cruelty.

Section 32 of The Parsi Marriage and Divorce Act, 1936, provides for 11 grounds for divorce. One of them is cruelty.

Section 10 of The Indian Divorce Act, 1869, provides for 7 grounds of dissolution of marriage of Christians. One of them is adultery coupled with cruelty.



The idea, the meaning and the concept of cruelty changes from time to time, varies from place to place and differs from individual to individual. It is not the same for persons situated in different economic conditions and status.


Perhaps this is the reason why the Legislature has not, in any of the Acts, defined as to what cruelty is and has left it to the best judgement of the Judiciary to decide as to what amounts to cruelty to a particular person in a particular set of circumstances.







The question of cruelty is to be judged on the totality of the circumstances. In order to term a conduct as cruel it should be so grave and weighty that staying together becomes impossible. A conduct to be cruel must be more serious than the ordinary wear and tear of marriage.



Out of 100 cases of divorces, in 95 cases, the ground for divorce is cruelty and in the majority of them the cruel conduct complained of is physical violence. However, cases of mental cruelty are also not unknown to our Courts and, at times, complaints are made of a spouse afflicting cruelty upon another, without physical violence, just by his or her conduct of saying something or refraining from doing something.



A wife's conduct of :



- humiliating her husband in the presence of family members and friends,


- taunting her husband on his physical incapabilities,


- denying him access to physical relationship,


- neglect,


- coldness and insult,


- deliberately wearing clothes which her husband dislikes,


- purposely cooking food which her husband is not fond of,


- visiting her parent's family off and on against her husband's wishes,


- undergoing an abortion despite her husband asking her not to do so,


- threatening to commit suicide,


- refusing to do household work,


- keeping husband outside the door of house,


- complaining to husband's employer,


- disobedience,


all these are not acts of physical violence but yet it has an effect on the husband's mind and due to this, the husband's health suffers and therefore these acts can be termed as cruel.


Similarly, a husband's conduct of:


- humiliating his wife,


- calling her frigid or cold fish, making excessive sexual demands,


- comparing her with the maid servant,


- taunting her for not having any child or giving birth to female children,


- demanding dowry,


- asking her to bring money or articles from her parents,


- objecting to her visiting her parents, insulting her relatives when they visit her,


- deliberately removing all servants and making her do all household work,


- denying any medical treatment when she is ill


are also acts of mental cruelty by the husband upon the wife.
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The following landmark decisions pertain to situations in Hindu marriage where a wife was held as ‘cruel’ to the husband and the Hindu divorce law was applied by the Supreme Court:

* A wife who aborts a baby child against the wishes of her husband and other family members - Satya v. Suri Ram AIR 1983 P&H.
* A wife who refuses to prepare tea for the husband’s friends. – Kalpana v. Surendranath AIR 1985 All 253.
* A wife who burns the husband’s doctoral thesis. – Shanti Devi v Raghav AIR 1986 Pat. 13.
* A wife who refuses to have sexual intercourse with the husband without giving any reason. – Anil Bharadwaj v Nimlesh Bharadwaj AIR 1987 Del 111.
* A wife who makes complaints against the husband to the police about their matrimonial differences. – Krishna v Ashok Ranjan 1985 Cal 431

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Demand for too much sex is cruel, grounds for divorce: SC
Oct 21, 2010
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Demand-for-too-much-sex-is-cruel-grounds-for-divorce-SC/articleshow/6789057.cms
NEW DELHI: Persistent demand for excessive sex causing injury can be ground for seeking divorce, the Supreme Court has ruled. 

Dealing with the undefined term "cruelty" under Section 13 of the Hindu Marriage Act, which provides grounds for divorce, a Bench comprising Justices P Sathasivam and B S Chauhan said the onus was on the one seeking divorce to prove with evidence that a particular conduct of the other partner had caused him/her cruelty.

The ruling came on a plea by an aggrieved husband.

While dealing with the whole gamut of what can be called "cruelty", entitling a spouse to move court for divorce, the Bench said even a single act of violence which was of grievous and inexcusable nature could fit the definition.
"Persistence in inordinate sexual demands or malpractices by either spouse can be cruelty if it injures the other spouse," said Justice Sathasivam, who wrote the judgment for the Bench.

However, a few isolated instances of cruelty over a certain period of time would not amount to cruelty as married life should be assessed as a whole, the Bench said while rejecting one Gurbux Singh's appeal seeking divorce on the ground of cruelty.

"Making certain statements on the spur of the moment and expressing displeasure about the behaviour of elders may not be characterised as cruelty. Mere trivial irritation, quarrels, normal wear and tear of married life which happens in day to day life in all families would not be adequate for grant of divorce on the ground of cruelty," the Bench clarified.

Having failed to prove cruel behaviour of his wife, Singh tried to impress the apex court to grant him divorce saying the marriage had broken down irretrievably as he and his wife were living separately since 2002 and there was no chance of their reunion.

The Bench said divorce has to be granted strictly under the grounds provided in Section 13 of Hindu Marriage Act though the apex court might have dissolved marriage on account of irretrievable breakdown in one case.

Domestic Violence Act (PWDVA) too biased: Four NGO’s come under one fold to hold a protest on October 23rd


AIMPF

 
                                                                            
    www.saveindianfamily.org               www.crisp-india.org                         www.aimpf.org

All India Daughter Protection Forum

Domestic Violence Act (PWDVA) too biased
Four NGO’s come under one fold to hold a protest on October 23rd

The Domestic Violence  Act 2005 was authored by people like SC Advocate Indira Jaising, who are unmarried and not in committed relationships. Unfortunately, they planned the DV Act for Keeps and Concubines, not for Families, Marriages and Spouses.
Roshni Mathan Pereira (AIDPF), Kumar Jahgirdar (Founder CRISP) and Lokesh (CRISP member) in Protest against DV Act 2005 in Bangalore 2010

“See the home-maker and then the home” goes the old Ad age. But the tribe of home-makers is fast dwindling. Broken marriages are order of the day and are painful for both the wife and husband. But there is more pain involved which the current society must take note of – children and aged parents who are in the twilight of their lives.
Roshni Mathan (AIDPF) addressing rally in Bangalore
In continuation of their unrelenting efforts to save families, the pro-family NGOs; Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF), Children’s Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP), All India Daughters Protection Forum (AIDPF) and All India Mothers-in-Law Protection Forum (AIMPF) are organizing a “Dharna” on October 23rd, 2010 (Saturday) in front of the Gandhi Statue, M G Road, Bangalore from 10 AM to 1.00 PM.
With malice towards none, the NGOs feel that the absurdly drafted DV Act is totally biased towards wives and provides highly competent, educated and independent women, with an unrestrained legalised weapon to harass the husband and his immediate family members. The NGOs want the “Lawmaker of the Land” to make requisite changes to help and protect the Indian family values. In this changed world where women equal men in every walk of life, it is only natural that the civil and criminal laws should be uniform and gender neutral.
The nation, in the hands of incompetents has resulted in the ridiculous governance where not only a section of its citizens need protection from basic human rights violation but from absurdly drafted laws themselves! Just one such is the Protection of Women against Domestic Violence Act which is helping perpetrate more violence against the family than stemming it.
Family disputes and Domestic Violence is the number one killer for married men as 26% of suicides are directly attributed to such cases, Also young intelligent achievers includes software engineers are wasting their quality time fighting false multiple cases. The process itself is more barbaric than the punishment.  
The Protection of Women against Domestic Violence Act is an act which is:
1.      Totally Unconstitutional and violates basic human rights
2.       It is a tool misused by Cosmopolitan and misguided wives to avenge against the husband and in-laws if their demands are not fulfilled
3.      ANTI-CHILD, ANTI-FAMILY, ANTI-WOMAN and ANTI-MAN
4.      A serious threat to society and Indian family values
5.      LEGALISED weapon BY UNSCRUPULOUS WIVES for extortion
6. CHILDREN are increasingly living in single parenting, mostly mothers and missing out Fathers love and affection due to restraining orders.
7. Harassed HUSBANDS are increasing and are not able to file any case against their spouse when they have been Physically and Mentally tortured
8. Children rights is ignored due to this act and suffer silently due to insecurity.
9. Elders/ Senior Citizens are harassed and constantly live in fear.
10.Women family members - Only ‘wives’ are considered women and their fabricated allegations are taken as gospel truth


OUR D E M A N D S

Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF)

  1. Protection for men and children under the domestic violence act
  2. Suo-moto prosecution for false cases of domestic violence
  3. Separate the maintenance laws from domestic violence laws, maintenance should be granted based on length of marriage and must be gender neutral
  4. Trials under the act should be strictly subject to the CPC and the Indian evidence act and criminal suggesting terms like jail, bail etc... be removed from its text
  5. Create a men’s welfare ministry and child welfare ministry
  6. Reform the antiquated judiciary and rewrite DV act with limitation clause
  7. Judiciary must implement  RTI Act in right earnest to provide important statistical data
  8. Responsible, accountable and a credible judiciary - make judiciary accountable for unjust adjudications (which are blatantly violating established law and internationally recognised human rights)!
  9. Responsible and accountable legislations and governance and police should be kept away form the family matters. Stop counselling in police stations
  10. Government to appoint and get research report on present family stresses and trivial disputes which are exaggerated

 CHILDREN’S RIGHTS INITIATIVE FOR SHARED PARENTING (CRISP)

1.     Protect children in matrimonial disputes and domestic violence act and stop child interviews and punish brain washing parents.
2.     Domestic violence judges should be trained in child psychology and Couples and Parental disputes should be treated separately.
3.     Implement shared custody/parenting immediately! No outdated sole ex-parte custody!
4.     Create Separate Ministry of Child Welfare (separate from ministry of women)
5.     Legal and judicial reforms for child friendly laws & implementation of internationally accepted good practices and clear back logs through evening and weekend courts.
6.     Settle all child custody and visitation cases within six months from filing
7.     Stop child restraining orders against fathers until trial is completed
8.     Child maintenance and support  provided by father should not be misused
9.     Action against any parent for not following court orders.
10.  Grand parents both paternal and maternal should be treated equally for grand children access.


All India Mothers-in-Law Protection Forum (AIMPF)

1.     Protection is required for ALL women! Women family members need protection from domestic violence, including those perpetrated by women against women.

  1. No immunity and suo-moto prosecution of women filing false cases.
Today the wife enjoys a free legal licence & immunity from prosecution while she herself perpetrates atrocities - physical, emotional and verbal abuse on other women members of the family. Such absurdly drafted laws not only shows the incompetence of the lawmakers and also reduces the ‘wife’ to be a legal terrorist, which is derogatory to the Indian woman and unconstitutional.

  1. Reform the NCW which is a PARTISAN WIFE CENTRIC ORGANIZATION. Ensure that NCW takes complaints from elderly women, mothers-in-law and not just wives. Otherwise, CLOSE DOWN THE NCW! They are unfit to redress women’s issues.

  1. The Domestic Violence Act is a “get rich quick” tool for criminal minded women to USURP husband and in-laws property. In the west, such women are termed “gold diggers”! No in-laws & husband should be forced to leave their own home on domestic violence complaint of daughter-in-law.


  1. Don’t treat mother-in-law as vamps and restrain TV serials depicting  mother-in-law as evil in the society.


We the members of SIFF, CRISP, AIMPF appeal to the media fraternity to support us by participating and educating the society at large through this DHARNA program the ill effects of DV act. We are expecting large number of our members and victims across the country to participate and express solidarity for the cause.

ANNEXURE

This is a sad period in India’s history that while it carries out economic reforms, modernises and aspires for a permanent seat in the United Nations to play a leading role in the world’s governance, it demonstrates a PATHETIC INCOMPETENCE TO UPHOLD EVEN BASIC HUMAN RIGHTS, PROVIDE CREDIBLE SPEEDY JUSTICE, PEACE, and SECURITY TO ITS CITIZENS.

Protection of Children from Domestic Violence
            Children must not suffer in matrimonial disputes. Granting sole and ex-parte custody to women merely on allegations under PWDVA and in other matrimonial disputes should be immediately stopped.  Shared custody should be the mandatory norm in all child custody cases, and children must not be allowed to be used as a pawn in matrimonial disputes.

In-spite of the fact that the Supreme Court has time and again shown exemplary sensitivity and wisdom towards children caught in the crossfire of matrimonial conflict, the same wisdom does not seem to have percolated down to the lower courts. Sections of judiciary need to be sensitised, educated and imparted with special training on protecting child rights. All litigants cannot approach the apex court for various reasons; neither is it possible for the apex court to adjudicate/ provide oversight for all such cases. So, there is a need for the Supreme Court to issues suitable directions/ guidance to the High Courts, Family Courts and other lower courts to educate them on aspects like U.N’s Child Rights Convention (CRC), PAS – Parental Alienation Syndrome, International Parental Child Abduction, stopping ill-effects on children due to misuse of gender biased matrimonial laws including PWDVA. Such training can be imparted during court vacation and will encourage the lower judiciary to improve their quality of adjudication, bring credibility to the judiciary and reduce the load on higher courts which have been reduced to redoing the work of lower courts!

Protection to men under Domestic Violence Act: 
            Grant protection to men from domestic violence like emotional, physical, financial abuse available to “women” (read wife) must be extended to men also.  It is the standard in most countries with domestic violence laws.

Maintenance - Eliminate maintenance as an Extortion Tool:
            Maintenance is meant for ensuring a dependent’s immediate livelihood. Its not a mechanism for profit. The domestic violence act has become a convenient extortion tool for unscrupulous women to get married only to demand extortionist compensation/ maintenance. In the west, such women are called “gold diggers”! This is nothing but legalised dacoity! The sanctity of marriage is reduced to a farce. Currently multiple maintenance applications can be made under several sections. Therefore the maintenance laws need to be separated from domestic violence & other matrimonial laws. To discourage marriage as a means of extortion, maintenance should be granted based on length of marriage, the status of the parties, their needs, and so on.

            Make maintenance laws Gender Neutral. Maintenance should not be driven by pseudo-feminist ideology which is presumptuous of men as perpetrators.  While the world has moved into the 22nd century, the Indian lawmakers are still stuck in a medieval mindset and ever proposing even more oppressive gender biased laws.  A case in point is recent recommendation to Karnataka government by Honourable Chairman of Law Commission of Karnataka Justice Malimath, which wants only the man to disclose their income/ assets under CrPC 125 maintenance cases.  This is presumptuous that a woman has no income/ assets of her own to support herself and does not require the woman to disclose her income! Implicit is the assumption that man is the perpetrator and not to be trusted in law. There are countless cases where women have filed false affidavits (which in itself is a crime) stating zero income to claim maintenance. It is such recommendations that when passed into law result in blatant misuse, extortion and legal terrorism.
The Indian lawmakers show absurd double standards when on the one-hand they claim equality of women & a modern outlook and on the other go about trying recommending maintenance for even women in “live-in relationships”! Women in live-in relationships are modern, educated, highly competent independent women who are not fettered by olden day social taboos! For lawmakers to appease with maintenance in laws like PWDVA, reflects a primitive “cave-man” mindset about women in society.
The lawmakers and law reformers will do well to study maintenance laws of other democratic countries (to which they make several trips at the taxpayers’ expense), and then exercise and apply their mind in law making! The need of the hour is for lawmakers from the modern generation and not those from a by-gone era!

Educate and sensitize judiciary: The stance that a man is presumed guilty in matrimonial disputes until proved innocent is unacceptable, inhuman and unconstitutional. It is in bad taste for judges to make remarks even in a lighter vein, of the kind: “A man must obey his wife”, or “a man cannot expect to have freedom in marriage”, etc.  If similar remarks were made with reference to women, all hell would break loose and there would be a clamour for gender-sensitization of judiciary and so on!

Create a Men’s Welfare Ministry:
The suicide rate of married men is about double that of married women. Suicide is resorted to when a person sees no other way out. The current laws are specifically designed to harass innocent men to death by systematically stripping them of their income, their possessions, imprisoning them, their immediate family members, and psychologically breaking them down  by separating them from their children. One example is the suicide of Syed Makhdoom who was unable to meet his son. If a woman commits suicide, the husband is presumed guilty with the onus on him to prove innocence. However, when a woman is the perpetrator, she is presumed innocent until proven guilty & her crime subsidised. Stop such double standards and pseudo-feminist appeasement! Such absurdities have only legalised atrocities against men & children which are no different from the much touted “bride burning”!

About Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF)
Save Indian Family Foundation, Bangalore is a non-profit organization dedicated to promote the cause of gender equality and family harmony, and provides support to men and families facing domestic violence and false legal cases. Its members including women, come from all walks of life and range from young people to senior citizens.
 About Children Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP)
CRISP is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) which recognizes the serious effects of "parental alienation" on children due to single parent families on account of divorce or separation. CRISP also focuses on furthering the rights of a child to remain connected with both parents. CRISP deals with issues related to the unquestionable right of children to be cared for by both biological parents.
About All India Mothers-in-law Protection Forum (AIMPF)
All India Mother-in-Law Protection Forum (AIMPF) is a non-funded, non-profit organization which creates awareness about the problems faced by mothers-in-law and also fights against their vilifying and villainous projection. Such projections which stereotype the depiction women are insulting and derogatory to the modern Indian women!
About All India Daughters Protection Forum (AIDPF)
All India Daughters Protection Forum (AIDPF) creates awareness about the Rights of Daughters in their own NATAL Homes, and how Daughters are abused in their own homes and families.