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Tuesday, 21 June 2011

FATHER’S DAY: Papas out in pursuit of happiness

FATHER’S DAY: Papas out in pursuit of happiness
Publication: The Times Of India Bangalore; Date: Jun 19, 2011; Section: Times City; Page: 4

Bangalore: For every daddy, the little one is an apple of his eye. Distanced from their heart-throbs on the eve of Fathers’ Day it was only natural for them to vent out their anguish. Separated from their wives, woebegone fathers came together under the umbrella of Crisp (Children’s Rights Initiative For Shared Parenting), an NGO that focuses on furthering rights of children to remain connected withboth parents,even after a couple’s separation.
Daddy dears demanded family law reforms, immediate halt to abuse of Section 498A(dowry harassment) and more accesstotheir kids.

“Conflict between parents will reduce and the mental and emotional health of children will improve when divorcing parents can be assured of equal and meaningful contact. They should also stop wasting precious time in the court,” said Kumar Jaghirdar, president Crisp. Stressing on equal rights for both parents, Jaghirdar observed that in divorce and separation cases, often one of the parents deprive the child of the love and care of theother.
 “This is one of the worst forms of child abuse, as the kidsuffersfrompsychological damage resulting in disorders like parental alienation syndrome and reactive associative disorders that warp a child’s development,” said Kesava Vishwanathan, a design engineer who’s a single parent.

Separated parents craving to be with their little ones came together on the eve of Father's Day in Bangalore on Saturday.

Daddies denied: CRISP bats for Fathers

Daddies denied: CRISP bats for Fathers

ALL too often, fathers get the fuzzy end of the lollipop — slaves to their jobs, chauffeurs to their children and incidental to their wives. This Father’s Day, fathers and many father figures will be honoured. Many men will get gifts, ranging from pens to mugs that say ‘World’s Greatest Father’ or ‘I Love My Dad’. However, the day will also bring pain and sorrow to many households, which have divorced or separated fathers.
But there is a ray of hope for such fathers. These men, some of whom are often denied access to their children for months and years, can now turn to the Children’s Rights Initiatives for Shared Parenting (CRISP), which takes up cudgels on behalf of harassed fathers. CRISP is part of the Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF), an organisation that primarily supports men trapped in false cases lodged against them by their wives.
Bangalore-based NGO CRISP was formed around five years ago, when some citizens came together to fight for the rights of single fathers and ensure that children did not lose touch with their dads if their parents divorced. "The courts are so geared to the mother that the father gets no justice and that means the kids don’t get justice, too. So many people have lost contact with their children that it was inevitable something like CRISP would emerge," says Kumar Jahgirdar, one of the founders of CRISP.

CRISP activists receive calls from hundreds of aggrieved fathers each year, many of whom are ‘falsely’ charged by their wives with taking dowry. There are others who are unjustly booked under the draconian Domestic Violence Act. Their lives are in tatters when they approach CRISP. On the one hand, there are the mounting court cases and, on the other hand, there is total alienation from their children. The insensitive Indian courts take ages to hand out verdicts. The hapless fathers have no choice but to put their lives on hold and pray for divine intervention.

Anil (name changed to protect identity), a SIFF activist, has had to put his life on hold for the past few years ever since his wife told him she wanted to have nothing to do with him but that she was not willing to go in for a divorce either. After exhausting all means for a reconciliation, Anil suggested to his wife that they divorce. However, she responded by filing a false case under the Domestic Violence Act against Anil and his father. `A0Anil has not stopped paying for her upkeep or for their two children even for a single day. Unfortunately, he has not met his children for the past two years or set foot in his own house, which his estranged wife is currently occupying with their children after throwing him out along with his belongings.

"It comes down to the simple fact that we face a Herculean struggle. The politicians are not dealing with this with the degree of urgency this matter deserves. Fathers are forced to support children`A0even when mothers are not being forced to allow those fathers access," says Jahgirdar. He wants fathers and grandparents to be given a legal right to see their children and grandchildren.

According to the members of CRISP, couples contemplating divorce should be counselled on the benefits of shared parenting. This will eliminate unnecessary child custody battles, stress caused to both the parents and the children and save the precious time of the already overburdened courts. `A0Jahgirdar wants the law changed so that equal parenting is presumed, whereas at present the pendulum swings in favour of the mother. "All we want is equality between the genders, equality of treatment," he adds.

For them, Father's Day has no relevance

For them, Father's Day has no relevance
Shimla, June 19

For them, International Father's Day has no relevance. They are a group of ''harassed'' men who have been denied their parenting rights. These are divorced fathers who have been demanding equal access to their children.
These fathers are keen to take care of their children as a practice and to make this law mandatory through legislation.

"This Father's Day (June 19), we are seeking parenting rights and joint custody of children in case of divorce or separation," Shimla-based software engineer Atul Sood (name changed) told IANS.

Sood, who has been facing a divorce case, said: "Despite a court order, my wife and her family is not allowing me to meet my kid. For more than three years, I have not met her and even not seen her."

Added Ramandeep Bajwa of Chandigarh, "In spite of the court giving me the permission to meet my child, the mother tutors the kid not to speak to me when the meeting takes place. So when I go to meet my child, she doesn't speak to me at all."

"It's really shameful that I have fathered the child but I can't speak to her," he added.
Bangalore-based NGO Children's Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP), with more than 2,500 members across the country, said shared parenting and joint custody of children should be implemented as a rule in divorce or separation cases.

"On Father's Day, we demand the basic rights of children to access both biological parents. For this, there is a need for implementing shared parenting and joint custody as a rule in separation and divorce cases," CRISP Founder and President Kumar V. Jahgirdar told IANS on phone from Bangalore.

"It's not fair on the part of the court to interview the child for selecting a parent (in divorce case). There should be no interview of the child up to the age of 12," he said.
CRISP, with its regional chapters in Chandigarh, Chennai, Hyderabad, Mumbai, Delhi and Lucknow, has been fighting to set up special courts to deal with child custody cases.
"We are demanding special courts to deal with child custody cases and address the problems faced by the parents who have been deprived of the joint custody," said Jahgirdar, who is fighting for shared parenting of his daughter with his ex-wife.
"Moreover, all child custody cases should be settled within three months of application in the family courts," he added.

Bajwa said the courts have a more favourable approach towards mothers.
"Indian matrimonial and child custody laws are biased against men," he added.
CRISP is demanding punishment for people who misuse the Indian Penal Code as a tool to deprive the father and his family members of access to their children.
S.P. Sidhu, a leading lawyer based in Chandigarh, said: "As per law, a child below the age of five always remains in the custody of the mother and the father doesn't have the right to bring him or her up."

"Even if the child is more than five years old, the court generally favours the mother for custody. However, only in exceptional cases the court gives custody to a father, that too after he convinces the court that the mother is not taking care of the child well," he said.
Delhi-based child counsellor Ekta Singh said: "For a child, both the parents are equally important and isolation of one of them in most cases leads to mental distress and trauma in the child."

According to CRISP, during 2008, 9,000 divorce cases were filed in Delhi, 7,500 in Mumbai and 5,000 in Bangalore. The figures were collected from family courts in the three cities.

Tuesday, 14 June 2011

Obama on Lewd Twitter Anthony Weiner: 'I would resign'

Obama on Weiner: 'I would resign'
President Barack Obama told NBC's Ann Curry in an interview to air on Tuesday's "Today," that if he were in Rep. Anthony Weiner's shoes, he would leave Congress.
"I can tell you that if it was me, I would resign," Obama said in a segment released in NBC's "Nightly News" Monday. The president's comments come just days after Democratic leaders, such as House Minority Leader Nancy Pelosi and Democratic National Committee Chair Debbie Wasserman Schultz, called for Weiner's resignation. 
Muscle power

The New York congressman has been embroiled in scandal after being caught sending lewd photos of himself to women via Twitter.
Battle of the Bulge

"When you get to the point where, because of various personal distractions, you can't serve as effectively as you need to, at the time when people are worrying about jobs, and their mortgages, and paying the bills – then you should probably step back," Obama told Curry.
Anthony Weiner and wife Huma Abedin: Labour's love lost

Monday, 13 June 2011

Press Release for Father's Day Rally by CRISP on 18 June 2011


 CRISP is an NGO formed in 2008, by people who recognize the serious effects of Parental Alienation of children due to single parent families on account of divorce or separation. CRISP fights against alienation of children from their parent(s) in the ever increasing divorce/ separation rates in the social realities of our contemporary society. CRISP also focuses on furthering the rights of children to remain connected with both biological parents. 
We are a pro-family and a pro-life organization, our aims and objectives are to promote family harmony in our society and are based on research findings. We are a large group of people from all walks of life, like software engineers, doctors, teachers, businessmen, social workers, etc. which includes women and senior citizens, to address this burning issue in our society.
CRISP has organized National Father's Day Rally on Saturday, the 18th June, 2011 between 10:00 AM and 1:00 PM at TOWN HALL STEPS, JC ROAD, Bangalore, to demand FAMILY LAW REFORMS, highlight the grievances of Fathers deprived of access to their children and children to their fathers due to biased laws and failure of our  judicial, legislative and executive systems on all fronts on this sensitive matter and a serious human rights issue, this protest dharna is on behalf of our children, who are voiceless victims & protect their rights to be connected to both biological parents.
Father's Day is celebrated worldwide to honor the contribution of ‘Fathers’. In India also the Father's day is being celebrated since many years as an expression of love and tribute to the Fathers. Present day fathers are actively involved in parenting their children in every way and in all spheres of their development. In the changed scenario of our family system, especially in cities the role of the father is paramount and must be recognized equally along with the Mother. Shared parenting is the only solution for the normal growth of children whose parents are separated.
Divorce rates are unfortunately going up substantially (over 30% and increasing) year on year, especially in educated & urban class people. There are more than 17,000 cases in the Family Courts of Bangalore alone, pending disposal and lakhs of cases still pending in various cities in our country. CRISP is concerned with the growing custody battles between the parents and the ill effects on the children due to their parents' separation. We speak for the rights of the innocent impacted Children who are deprived of the love and affection of both their natural parents and shared parenting is the only alternative arrangement to spend quality time with both its natural parents, since parents divorce is inevitable in the present day world & lifestyle of people
The traditional Indian Value system has undergone a sea change from the olden days where the mother was the nurturer and the father a provider to the child. Present day fathers are actively involved, physically and emotionally in parenting children and are equally competent in taking care of the needs of the child and take on the responsibilities of child upbringing and are in no way inferior to the mother. The anti-father mindset is not valid, but still persists in our archaic and cruel systems. Typically in divorce and separation cases, one of the parents, out of revenge against the other parent deprives the child of the love, affection and care of the other parent. This is one of the worst forms of child abuse, as the children suffer the consequences of permanent psychological damage from resulting disorders like Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) and Reactive Associative Disorders that warp a child’s development. Studies have shown that there is a tendency for such children to become criminals in their later years, for which the society and our system are directly responsible. Please see CRISP website for details.
Child Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP), demands the following immediate Family Law reforms:
1.      Grant immediate and equal (child) access to separated parents who are keen to take care of their children as a practice. Legislate law to make this mandatory.
2.      Conduct compulsory counseling on SHARED PARENTING to educate parents of its benefits for the welfare of the child, before family courts grant the decree of divorce.
3.      Punish people who misuse laws, particularly 498A (Dowry Act) and Domestic Violence Act as a tool to deprive the father & his family members of child access.
4.      Set up special courts to deal with child custody cases and address problems faced by parents deprived of any visitation/joint custody as top priority.
5.      All custody/ visitation cases should be disposed off, within 3 months of application in the family courts in the best interest of children.
6.      Ban child interviews when the children are of tender age, which have not had adequate access with the non-custodial parent.
7.      Parents who don't follow court orders pertaining to children should be punished as per law and also declared unfit to be a guardian for the child.
8.      CRISP urges a separate Union Ministry for Children and to de-link the same from the present Women and Child Development ministry, since the objectives are different.
9.      Employ psychologists / child psychologists as Mediators in mediation centers & discourage lawyers acting as mediators.
10.  Create a Family Court website and make available all the information on this (emulate the High Court example) the case list in the previous day.
11.  India must accede to United Nation's Convention of International Parental Child Abduction, which is long overdue.
12.  Provide a crèche and children’s area in the family court premises where childcare can be provided and child-parent bonding & companionship promoted. This also ensures immediate access to the deprived parent & tender age children and helps in their bonding.
13.  Evening courts should be set up so that litigants need not have to apply for leave in matrimonial disputes.
14.  Implement RTI act seriously in family court matters.
CRISP’s Achievements 
1.    CRISP was invited by the parliament recently where we successfully presented our recommendations on issues pertaining  to child rights and welfare on account of irretrievable breakdown of marriages and on female feticide in the years 2010 & 2011
2.    Educated the system about the concept of SHARED PARENTING and its advantages in various part of the country through seminars and workshops.
3.    More then 10,000 members across the globe and growing.
4.    Weekly meetings successfully launched various centers in the country to give mutual support in counseling and legal awareness.
5.    National Commission for Protection Child Rights (NCPCR) a Government of India undertaking has appreciated CRISP for educating the society and legal fraternity on the significance of Shared Parenting
6.    Launched website: where average visitor rate exceeding more then 1000 & victims make use of the knowledge and information posted on the web-site and which is the first of its kind in the country pertaining to child custody matters.
7.    Even mothers who have been deprived of child custody are members of CRISP and working for its goals of Joint custody and Shared Parenting.
8.    We have successfully prevented many suicide attempts of deprived fathers by counseling from our NGO experts & got them the child visitation rights.
9.    CRISP has made a representations to Chief Justice of India, WCD Ministry and law commission signed by over 700 people requesting shared parenting among others and awaiting suitable action from the concerned authorities and also to adhere to UN's Child's Rights Convention.
As per the research done by the multiple organizations across the globe, it reveals shocking information, that children deprived of their Father’s care are:

·         5 times more likely to commit suicide
·         9 times more likely to dropout of high school
·         14 times more likely to end up as Rapist
·         20 times more likely to end up in Prison or  become drug addicted
·         32 times more likely to runaway from home.
There is no doubt that fathers’ involvement in child care cannot be substituted by anybody in the world. “A Father is better than hundred teachers!" Joint custody and SHARED PARENTING are the BEST SOLUTIONS in divorce and parental separation.
Even though children constitute about 40% of country’s population, they are voiceless victims thus to create public awareness on this highly sensitive subject and human rights issue, We appeal & invite our media friends to kindly grace this occasion and rededicate ourselves to save the children from fatherless-ness and save their childhood & ensure their happiness since they are the future assets of the nation & media plays very important role in educating the citizens and various social organizations.

Speakers for the press conference are:

·         Kumar V Jahgirdar  (President)
·         Sivakumar Challa (Secretary)

·         Jayanth T.K (Counselor)
·         Avinash Kumar (Counselor)
·         Roshni Mathan (Social Activist)

Thanking You,

Kumar V Jahgirdar
President CRISP,
98452 64488

Annexure Attachment on Child Psychology Report and Statistics upon request

Friday, 10 June 2011

‘So You Think You Can Dance’ judge Mary Murphy shocked viewers of Joy Behar’s show when she revealed Arnold Schwarzenegger hit on her makeup artist in an elevator mere minutes after the two had met!

‘So You Think You Can Dance’ judge Mary Murphy shocked viewers of Joy Behar’s show when she revealed Arnold Schwarzenegger hit on her makeup artist in an elevator mere minutes after the two had met!

Apparently Arnold Schwarzenegger‘s roving eye extends beyond housekeepers! So You Think You Can Dance judge Mary Murphy told Joy Behar she had a personal experience with the governator that tipped her off to his womanizing ways!
Apparently, when Arnold met Mary’s makeup artist, he asked if she wanted to kiss him. Mary said this advance happened not only immediately after Arnold Schwarzenegger had met the girl, but after only a few seconds in an elevator!

“Can you imagine on a daily basis how many women, though, that he has hit on? This is somebody he’d never seen before,” she said.

While Mary, 53, didnt reveal the identity of the makeup artist, she did say how startled the girl was at Arnold’s approach, and that the incident is 100% true. The former professional ballroom dancer was promoting the upcoming season of her hit show, So You Think You Can Dance when she dropped this unexpected bombshell.

Thursday, 9 June 2011

Kindergarten Cop Arnold Schwarzenegger Gets Cozy With a Stripper for 50th birthday celebration

Arnold Schwarzenegger Gets Cozy With a Stripper for 50th birthday celebration

Arnold Schwarzenegger may still be wearing his wedding ring and may still want Maria Shriver back, but as news continues to surface of his roving hands that may be impossible. The latest involves a series of photos from a wild birthday bash. For his 50th birthday, his friends threw him a party at director James Cameron’s house and was, according to an insider who was there that night, “boys only, no wives or girlfriends” and invited a stripper who dressed up like a cop – very original guys…
Arnold went all ‘Kindergarten Cop‘ and got ‘hands on’ with the exotic dancer. Now for a man whose marriage fell apart in a very public way due to his admission of an affair and love child with the very attractive family maid it’s not wrong of us to assume that this may be another relationship he could have had.
Per Radar Online:
“Arnold seemed to love the stripper,” they said. “She was his present.” The stripper bared her breasts and the future Governor of California couldn’t get enough. “Arnold was all over her, grabbing her breasts and kissing her,” the source said. He got frisky with the stripper, according to the source.
“She gave him a lap dance and he looked like he really enjoyed it, he couldn’t keep his hands off her the whole time.”

Wednesday, 1 June 2011

Kumar Jahagirdar bowls googly at Anil Kumble. ex-wife says"You are not Family!"

Kumar Jahagirdar bowls googly at Anil Kumble. ex-wife says"You are not Family!"
After family court granted Kumble custody of child, biological father approached HC questioning the order, which in turn directed issuance of emergency notice to the former cricketer.

The decade long legal battle over custody of a child between Anil Kumble's family and the child's biological father Kumar Jahagirdar continues, as the latter approached the High Court questioning the family court order.
Based on the HC's direction, an emergency notice has been issued to the respondents and the next hearing will be held following their response.

Not eligible: The Family Court earlier rejected Jahagirdar's application stating that he was not entitled to custody on the ground that there was no female member living with him to look after the child.

In his petition, Jahagirdar contended that the family court, over sighted Supreme Court while passing the order dated January 29, 2004. The SC observed that the prospect of the arrival of a second child in the respondent's family is another circumstance, which would be in favour of the child.

Basis of questioning
However, after the birth of the second and thereafter the third child, the respondent (Chetana) and her present husband (Anil Kumble) had become non-cooperative in implementing the Apex Court's directions.

Further, Jahagirdar, who had no other children through his second wife, could have bestowed his undivided attention, natural love and affection, as against the respondents who was busy and preoccupied with bringing up their two infant children, which would result in the neglect of the appellant's only daughter.

The Family Court earlier rejected Jahagirdar application stating that he was not entitled to custody on the ground that there was no female member living with him to look after the child. Considering this, Jahagirdar married Dr Savitha, despite which custody was rejected citing 'stepmother' as the reason.

No contact
Jahagirdar further contended that the court did not allow him any contact with his daughter for five months before she was called to testify before the court, while deciding on custody.

"During this period, the respondents constantly brainwashed and tutored the child to get the order in their favor. Based on the child's deposition, the court decided to handover the custody rights to Kumble and even passed derogatory remarks against me," Jahagirdar said.

Reacting to this, the Kumble's advocate C V Nagesh said that they are ready to face the challenge.

"Litigation is like two faces of a coin. Had we been in the appellant's position, we too would have approached the HC if we had lost the case. However this will ultimately serve no purpose and its unfortunate that the child has to bare the brunt," Nagesh said.