Julian Lennon blames father John Lennon for his lack of children
John Lennon was such a bad father that he put his own son, Julian, off having children.
04 Dec 2011
Julian Lennon, 48, John Lennon's son by his first wife, Cynthia, has revealed that his difficult relationship with his famous father has discouraged him from starting a family.
|John Lennon and his abandoned Son Julian Lennon|
“He was young and didn’t know what the hell he was doing," Julian said. "That’s the reason I haven’t had children yet. I didn’t want to do the same thing. No, I’m not ready. I want to know who I am first.”
Lennon’s comments, made in an interview with Record Collector magazine, are perhaps his most forthright yet about his relationship with his father.
Julian, himself a musician, was five when John left Cynthia for Yoko Ono in 1968. When Julian was born at the start of Beatlemania in 1963, John Lennon was away on tour. Brian Epstein, the Beatles' manager, initially covered up the fact that John was married with a child to make him more appealing to female fans.
After Lennon and Ono moved to New York in 1971, Julian did not see his father again for two years.
The pair were later reconciled, but Julian was still hurt when John gave an interview shortly before he was killed by Mark Chapman in 1980, in which he implied that Julian was an unplanned child who “came from a bottle of whiskey”.
Julian told an interviewer in September: “Mum was more about love than Dad. He sang about it, he spoke about, but he never really gave it, at least not to me as his son."
He added that he had to control the aggression he inherited from his father: “The darker side definitely comes from Dad. Whenever I get too aggressive, which comes from Dad's side, I try to calm myself down, be more positive."
Julian has, however, also shown understanding of his father’s situation – in particular the fact that he was a young parent who had himself endured a difficult childhood. John Lennon went 20 years without seeing his father Alfred and grew up living with his aunt Mimi, not his mother Julia.
Julian Lennon has also had difficult relationships with Yoko Ono and Sean Lennon, Yoko and John’s son.
In 2009, he admitted he once “unleashed hell” on Yoko over her control of the Lennon estate, but insisted the pair had since reconciled.
He has also admitted jealousy of Sean, 36, saying: “I remember thinking, when Dad gave up music for a couple of years to be with Sean, "Why couldn't he do that with me?" Those thoughts haunted me for a time.”
By 2007, however, relations between Sean and Julian had improved so much that Julian accompanied Sean, also a musician, on a tour of Croatia and Slovenia.
Julian’s childhood difficulties did, however, produce one of the Beatles’ most famous songs. Paul McCartney wrote Hey Jude as a message to Julian when he was on his way to see Cynthia as the marriage was ending. The song was originally "Hey Jules", but McCartney decided Jude scanned better before recording it.